"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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dance floor approaching?????

Locster

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whats the correct way to ask women to dance/grind?

do u ask them, just start dancing behind them or what?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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blinkwatt

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Apparanetly from the little clubbing expierence I've had it depends greatly on their appearance. If they seem cute/innocent they wait for guys to ask them,if they are dressed skanky and already out on the dance floor,don't ask just assume they already said "yes" and go for it.
 

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if you are on the dance floor, just create an eye contact and smile (if she smiles back) than start to dance with her...

or while she is dancing whisper something funny to her (and you also keep on dancing), she would probably laugh and say wellcome to you...

never ever ask to dance with them....
 

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Locster said:
whats the correct way to ask women to dance/grind?

do u ask them, just start dancing behind them or what?
for starters, grinding is NOT dancing. A monkey could do that.

True dancing has rhythm. Try swing. I usually go with "May I take this dance." Women are usually set off-balanced by this. They accept and you take them on a journey (I do this at swing dance class :rockon: ). Don't do this at clubs. I do this at swing club.

This MUST be done with confidence or you won't get sh!t.

comic_relief
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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