"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Dance class

ARrocket

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Signed up for a dance class, wow, great girls in there. I have some experience with this form of dance so I think I stood out well on the 1st week, and there are a few girls that threw me some major IOIs.

Planning on going for a number or two at the next one. It's a situation where I know I'll be seeing them every week so I am trying to find that balance between rushing things and missing the boat, you know?

Also, I'm pretty uncomfortable going for a number of one girl while another girl I'm interested in is like 10 feet away and possibly watching and/or listening :confused:
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Dante1a

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Dance class seems like a good strategy, mate. I was thinking about trying that myself.

As far as the number close, why not just start talking to both girls and say "Hey, we should all go out as a group and practice our moves..Give me your numbers.."

(Stole this basic concept from AFC Adam awhile back. It works great. Besides, it's not asking, it's assuming that they will give you their numbers. It also decreases the likelihood of rejection because you are setting things up for the group.)

Just a thought!
 

Fly By Night

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Hey, I am also in dance class (with very attractive women)! :)

One way is to talk it up with them towards the end of the class and continue the convo til you get outside. Then when you guys are about to depart, just go like "You're pretty good at dancing. Lemme get your number, just in case I hear about any dance events nearby. You'd love em! ;) " If she actually likes you she will definitely give you the number. But make sure you isolated her well.
 

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What kind of dance class is this?
I've been going to contra dances, which aren't 'classes', they are real dance evenings, but the women they draw aren't exactly pickup material, if you know what I mean... The better-looking ones are usually married stuckups who won't dance with anyone except their husbands. I've learned that the big gals are more fun than the cutie-pies-- they have a lot more presence, "frame" as it's called.
The music is way-cool, though-- live bands playing traditional tunes, which I love.
 

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I was going to ask about what kind of dance class, too. I'm thinking about doing something like this, but I want to make sure it's going to be a type of dance that will draw younger, single women rather than a bunch of old chicks or couples.

I've taken other kinds of classes (and taught some, too) and the technique about getting together with a group is gold. I would always suggest that we go out for a drink afterward and there are usually at least a couple takers. As long as you are social and not awkward, this tactic works great to break the ice and get to know people quickly.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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ARrocket

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Good point about the couples. Luckily for me, this is a class at a university, where I am a graduate student (mostly undergrad girls but I'm young enough so no big deal). Tango class
 
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