"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Dance class anyone?

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So ... I am thinking of taking a salsa dancing class. As a way to get more comfortable dancing and talking with girls. I will do it in a nearby city so I'm guaranteed not to know anyone, thus I should be more confident.

How does a typical class work? What happens if there are more guys than girls? Any advice for me, so I can be more confident and comfortable?

Is this a good idea?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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It's a fantastic idea! But please be certain that you're wanting to learn dancing for the right reasons. If you do anything in the hope that it'll "attract chicks" it's a road that leads to nowhere because you're supplicating to a belief that you'll be accepted.

Do it because it will make you feel better to have a skill under your belt or you'll gain insight into another culture.
 

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Yeah it would mostly be for confidence.
 

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You can't get "mostly" pregnant. Be damned sure that everything you do will benefit YOU first. If it makes someone else's day, thats an added benefit and should make you feel good.

You're on your way brother. Props to you.
 

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Yeah thanks. I am still trying to figure out how to go meet people (guys or girls) without any friends to do it with. It's like a catch 22. I can't go to a bar or club without friends to go with. But I can't seem to meet anyone anywhere?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Why such a defeatist attitude young brother? Find what it is inside of you which makes you happy and pursue that. If you like watching sports hang out at the popular sports pub in town with your fav team jersey and make friends that way. There are countless ways for you to share your life with other people.

Firstly, You need to believe in who you are. Break ground and start the foundation with a dedication to yourself to make progress in some aspect of your life each and everyday.

Baby steps are small but they still lead you up . . .
 

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For whatever it's worth...

I think Dancing looks foolish.
I don't see the allure to it!
However, I also know that most women like it for some reason.
My buddy met his gf in a dance class.
 

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I am thinking of learning ballroom dancing, the twirly whirly stuff.
Always a plus, in my opinion.
 

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I took a hip-hop dance class a little over a year ago at a local community college that is known for having the hottest girlies.

It got me in shape, however I couldn't remember the moves. It was a good experience as it brought me to the realization that I was not meant to dance like a Backstreet boy.

Take the dance class and tell us about it.
 

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I've been doing salsa dancing for a year and I love it.

Saw a doco on attraction and women universally found good dancers attractive. The psychology behind this was that a well co-ordinated, graceful male was attractive because they had the likelihood of being able to father strong babies.

I started dancing because: some of the chicks that dance are really hot, to take me out of my comfort zone (I went to classes by myself), I thought it might be fun and Ithought I might get laid.

I have ticked all of the above boxes.

When you go to a class Coolrunning you don't need a partner. You will rotate around the class and dance with each woman in turn.

At first you feel like a loser but if you keep at it and ENJOY it you will make heaps of friends.

I have since had a lot of female friends come along with me and they love it.

I can dance at salsa nightclubs and chicks love it.

At normal nightclubs chicks notice you can move and my classes have got me laid about three times in the last year just because you can twirl and spin the girls a couple of times.

I'm on my way to being a good dancer and believe me, if you're good, the chicks drool.

I highly recommend it.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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