Damn you, sosuave.com!!

[Frosty]

Yes, I have a love/hate relationship with this site. Because of the waterfall of knowledge, I am able to get more dates, be in the company of finer women, have more sex, and walk with a pimp strut.

But on the otherhand, now I feel that I am over-calculating. I am always planning my next move, my next words, my next vixen- my next calculation.

I can barely concentrate on much of any thing else because I am too busy wondering if this was AFC or if that was AFC or if it was ****y and Funny enough. Did I say the right thing? A few months ago, I just did what I knew best and dealt with 90% rejections and moved on and sulked on the weekends. You know, the life of a master of the LJBF zone. I owned that zone and we didn't do calculations there.

Damn!


I don't know which is easier mentally, being more AFC or a calculating aspiring DJ who is getting more action. I know what is easier physically.

This better be like learning philosophy. When I first began to learn philosophy, it seems as if my head hurted from trying to think through all of those concepts. Now I naturally think more philosophically. If not, I may just have to reclaim my residency in Nice-Guy Hell - or just visit every now and then.

Damn, You sosuave.com! Damn, you!

 

[sano]

Its all what you make of it and how much you put into it. You can obsess over every nitty detail that is discussed on this site, or you can obtain a broad and general concept of the DJ and fill in the blanks with what suits you.

but always remember, "Moderation in most things" too much of something is never good.

 

[Demon]

Forget what you think. Just go with what you feel.

 

[Starman]

My take is eventually DJism becomes a mindset..and you eventually stop calculating every angle..because you've seen and done it all before and it becomes automatic and habitual.

you seem like you are still in the learning/adjusting phase..

Kinda like when you start a new job..and the first few weeks..you are torturing yourself to make a good impression and do everything just perfect..but after a month or two..those thoughts disappear..and you just do your job knowing you are confident that you are doing it right.

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by Frosty
Yes, I have a love/hate relationship with this site. Because of the waterfall of knowledge, I am able to get more dates, be in the company of finer women, have more sex, and walk with a pimp strut.

But on the otherhand, now I feel that I am over-calculating. I am always planning my next move, my next words, my next vixen- my next calculation.

Let go your conscious self and act on instinct.

The idea behind this forum isn't to be able to employ tactics and calculation. The idea is that once you've got the right attitude and confidence, you won't HAVE to. It won't come all at once. I thought it would, but it won't.

Read the DJ Bible...particularly Pook's stuff.

 

[Shadow Dancer]

You'll eventually reach a point where you've got it down. It's not something you think about. It's just what you do because it's who you are.

When you hit the point where you no longer feel like asking for advice about girls you'll know you're making good progress. It's a sign that you're confident in your own abilities to get things done.

As with your Philosophy example...that's exactly what will happen. Keep at it and eventually you'll get there.

I'll tell you now though, you're going to go through a LOT of growing pains. Trying to sort through the bullshiet both external and internal. You're gonna wonder about contradictions and if you're being too mean, too nice...if it's too much effort...etc etc.

My advice...

Take the high road in all this. If you don't full understand what I mean, keep at this "game" long enough and you will. When you emerge, you'll be smarter, stronger and more positive than ever. Not to mention a woman-magnet.


-Shadow