"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Damn was completly floored last night

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So I was over this girls house I have been out with for like a month. And were sitting there on the couch making out and stuff. And she gets all serious and tells me she cant do this anymore. She said she has had sex with 16 different guys since 16 (is 19 now) and that the last guy had hiv but they used protection so she thinks she probably doesn't have it. Blew my mind becuase she seems like the typical nice girl.

She said she was very heavily into hardcore drugs and the party scene, but hasn't done any drugs since last summer. I'm not gonna lie I was ready to get up and leave right then and there and not say a word but I like her alot. She said she wants a relationship but it cant be physical. I didn't really say anything then except that I cant be with someone that I cant be physical with. I then left. Yeah ok whatever, I think this is a next.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Flabbergasped?

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At least she told you before you got clymidia.

Damn, 16 guys in 3 years. I've heard worse, but that's still intense.
 

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Do you think I should continue to see her but still go out and do some mad approching for a better girl?
 

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Leave the slut dude, you don't want this kind of girl.....I bet you she has had a few abortions and is probably on anti-depressants. RUN AWAY!
 

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F***ing oneitis, havent' had a gf in 9 months so i have it bad. but your right i got to cut it off.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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silenthill said:
She said she has had sex with 16 different guys since 16 (is 19 now) and that the last guy had hiv but they used protection so she thinks she probably doesn't have it.
Lol, krisstttt...!

All these young sloots ridin' dirty these days! :eek:

And "probably" doesn't have HIV? Maybe she should just take a test and know for sure? Unless she's afraid to find out the truth?

Speaking of, she may know that she already has something...but just doesn't want to admit it to you...but is also giving you a small hint here to relieve her guilt...
 

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AHHHHHHH!!!!! Tell that h0r to get a STD test so she doesnt spread her nasty ass to other people...I bet her **** looks like roast beef...I mean WTF is wrong with h0s like this...either she really likes you(apparently shes liked alot of other guys too) or shes afraid to give you the herps
 

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sounds liek she KNOWs she has HIv but doesn't want you to stigmatize her hehe
 

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Its too early for the test cause she literally got done f**king this guy like 15 times a month and a half ago. She went out with him for a month. I don't know why Im even considering this. There are way to many nicer girls than to be dealing with this.
 

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silenthill said:
Its too early for the test cause she literally got done f**king this guy like 15 times a month and a half ago. She went out with him for a month. I don't know why Im even considering this. There are way to many nicer girls than to be dealing with this.
You really need to elevate your company. If she's into hardcore drugs and f'ing guys with HIV...you might...just might want to move on.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Yea definitely the good advice. She's a great person for telling you but it's not worth getting HIV or full on AIDS to tell her thanks. You can use her as a pivot if you want, but go out and knock over some classy sexually oppressed ladies. I heard they're total freaks :rockon:
 

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silenthill said:
Do you think I should continue to see her but still go out and do some mad approching for a better girl?
Do not continue seeing this girl.
1. She may have HIV
2. You can't be physical with her.

This is as big a red flag as you will ever get.
 
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