Damn.. This Sucks

[BxPrince24]

Damn.. well let me give it to yall from the beginning.

Went on a date with a girl. We're both very much alike, interested in everything eachother's interested in and enjoy being around eachother.

So on the date I'm in straight DJ mode, I had her giving me "I want you" looks, I had her hugging me, relaxing in my arms, flirting with me, holding hands, and the only thing we didn't do was kiss and that's because I didn't feel like kissing her yet.

Everything seemed good, we kept talking to eachother after that, though I made sure it wasn't too often, maybe once or twice every 2-3 days. So she wanted me to go with her to the zoo this coming friday and go to meet her parents when they keep the celebration for her father becoming a lawyer. I thought everything was going great.

So I talk to her tonight, cause I haven't spoken to her since thursday. I talk to her and during the convo I ask how was her weekend. She says it was interesting, I ask what makes you say that? She says she pulled a scheme on her mom. She said " I wanted to see my boyfriend so I told my mom I had to go somewhere for my school, etc..."

So I'm like kinda caught off guard, but I don't make her notice. I just carried on the convo like it was nothing. But now I don't feel like talking to her and I'm upset at myself for thinking that she could had been the girl that I wanted to have an LTR with.

Any questions/comments/criticism/advice?

 

[flexion_]

Well what do you want? If you want a LTR its pretty much a waste with a girl that cheats. If you want sex then just continue on...

 

[ShyRyder]

Why didn't you feel like kissing her at the time?

 

[BxPrince24]

Originally posted by ShyRyder
Why didn't you feel like kissing her at the time?

It just didn't feel like the time is right. I don't know, maybe I was playing hard to get, maybe I wanted her to work for it more, I'm not sure what I was thinking exactly. I kissed her on the cheek and neck though.

 

[BxPrince24]

Originally posted by flexion_
Well what do you want? If you want a LTR its pretty much a waste with a girl that cheats. If you want sex then just continue on...

With this girl, I want an LTR. I'm thinking about calling and asking her tomorrow where do we stand? Does she want to be my friend or more than that?

 

[Alphathree]

You fail. Sorry. Move on.

(Holy hell. I think I'm going to write a gigantic 25,000 word post that iterates through exactly how to pass these dumbass **** tests you guys keep failing. It's really not that hard. DONT BE A WUSSY. You are a wussy. Stop it.)

Erm, try "So do you think cuddling with another guy is cheating on your boyfriend?"

Or how about why the heck didn't you KISS her? You didn't feel like it BS. You should've macked that woman.

She's trying to see if you have any BALLS between your legs.

 

[Alphathree]

Originally posted by BxPrince24
With this girl, I want an LTR. I'm thinking about calling and asking her tomorrow where do we stand? Does she want to be my friend or more than that?

To get this girl, do exactly the following:

1. Go to the florist and buy a dozen long-stemmed red roses.

2. Buy an ornate vase and fill it with water. Insert roses.

3. Write a note on a card and attach it to one of the stems:

"I love you and this is for your own good."

4. Take the vase by its base, make sure its full of water and the roses are in it, raise it in the air, and SMASH IT OVER TOP OF YOUR HEAD.

5. Call her and say, "Hey... I'm not going to act like a dumbass anymore. Wanna grab a cup of coffee and talk?"

 

[BxPrince24]

Originally posted by Alphathree
You fail. Sorry. Move on.

(Holy hell. I think I'm going to write a gigantic 25,000 word post that iterates through exactly how to pass these dumbass **** tests you guys keep failing. It's really not that hard. DONT BE A WUSSY. You are a wussy. Stop it.)

Erm, try "So do you think cuddling with another guy is cheating on your boyfriend?"

Or how about why the heck didn't you KISS her? You didn't feel like it BS. You should've macked that woman.

She's trying to see if you have any BALLS between your legs.

She still wants me to go with her on wednesday and to her father's celebration.

And after thinking about it, the reason why I didn't kiss her was because I was nervous. I haven't kissed a girl in 5 years.

 

[backbreaker]

my my how we learn nothing on this board. with all of this information sitting right in front of you.


Look, when a woman, espically one you just went on a date with and didn't mention her BF to you or even probably think about it, mentions her BF, she is not sending signals, she is telling you that she is deseriable by other men.

I mean dude, if she was really in her BF she would have not went on her date with you.

She gave you a **** test, and you failed.


On the contary, if she would have said something like, "my boyfriend is going to cook for me today and I love it when he cooks" in other words, telling you how He makes her FEEL, then you need to move on, but that's not the case.

 

[backbreaker]

Originally posted by BxPrince24
With this girl, I want an LTR. I'm thinking about calling and asking her tomorrow where do we stand? Does she want to be my friend or more than that?

For the love of God, this isn't a Dating advice Forum, it's a DJ Forum, with a DJ Bible in the upper right hand corner. I suggest you read it before you call this girl back.


Girl asks for a LTR- Good sign, great sign


Boy/Man asks for a LTR- Bad sign


A woman, will ALWAYS let you know what she wants... that's her job. It's your job to respond.

Oh, please don't call her and ask "where we stand".. Go read my Sticky post at the top of the page

 

[BxPrince24]

I don't get it, how did I fail if I never made a big deal about it? Wasn't that what I was supposed to do?

 

[backbreaker]

it's not the fact that you didn't make a BIG deal out of it, it's the fact that you even made a Deal out of it in the first place.

I was under the assumption that you told her you didn't know she had a BF... if you didn't, don't bring it up and you can save face.

Women are very, very rarely single.. They usually have someone lined up before they break up with the person they are with.


like I said, don't pay any mind to the BF, and make sure you kiss her next time.

 

[BxPrince24]

no, i never even mentioned anything to her about her having a BF, I know better than that. I said I just carried on the convo.

 

[BxPrince24]

lol, there should be a thread with a list of all of the known tests that girls play, in case any guy faces a test, he knows what to do.

If my personality wasn't as changed as it is I know I would had asked her "You have a boyfriend?" "what do you mean you have a boyfriend? etc... But I know that no matter what you don't do that, a DJ is supposed to have many girls so why would he get like that if one of them suddenly isn't available?

Now the reason I was thinking about calling her and asking her where we stand was because I told one of my friends about it (we talk about everything dealing with girls we try to hook up with) and he said that I should do that.

But i spoke with her tonight again. Got a normal convo going, and while I was talking my jaw was paining me, I think it's because of my wisdom teeth growing in, it's been hurting for a few days now.

So I said hmmm... and during the convo I told her that I might not be able to make it to her father's celebration, I have to go to a dentist. My jaw is killing me and has been killing me for the past 2 weeks. Then I said when we went out, that was pretty much the only reason you didn't get the greatest kiss you ever had. She gave a positive response, pretty much like how u feel when you see a hot ass girl infront of you and you're like oooooooo or daaaaamn, it was one of those expressions.

Then I got a call from an girl that I was trying to hook up with earlier in the summer and she said she's visiting in two weeks and she want's to hook up. So the girl asks what was I doing and I tell her that I was just talking to a friend, she wants me and her to go out in a few weeks. So it seemed her IL picked up a little more from there, and we got into another convo then I told her I'll talk 2 her later.

 

[S-lemond]

u didint feel like kissin her because?

 

[BxPrince24]

I was nervous because I haven't kissed a girl in about 5 years. Didn't want to f*ck up. But next time we go out i'm gonna do it whether I know how or not.

 

[brenbaus]

Originally posted by Alphathree
To get this girl, do exactly the following:

1. Go to the florist and buy a dozen long-stemmed red roses.

2. Buy an ornate vase and fill it with water. Insert roses.

3. Write a note on a card and attach it to one of the stems:

"I love you and this is for your own good."

4. Take the vase by its base, make sure its full of water and the roses are in it, raise it in the air, and SMASH IT OVER TOP OF YOUR HEAD.

5. Call her and say, "Hey... I'm not going to act like a dumbass anymore. Wanna grab a cup of coffee and talk?"

best advice I have heard in a while, make sure you smash the vasw over your head so hard it knocks you out, and then call her!