"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Damn, these bastards amaze me

moneyisking

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Hey how is it goin?

I always wonder how you can project your personality in a way you wrap the girl around your **** literally. That is, she is calling you, she comes knocking your door, she tells she likes you, etc. You know, possessing such a personality that these gals just can't resist and get wrapped around you.

I know these 4 guys from my campus. And **** they know how to game. I never saw them in action, but saw them with multiple women hanging out, and always have chicks flirting with them on fbook. I mean, girls are all over them and they are just so-so looking guys. So how do you "REAL PLAYERS, NO KEYBOARD WARRIORS" play who get those girls wrapped around you? Few commonalities I find from those guys were confidence, and that was about it. If you have girls wrapped around you begging for YOUR attention, SPEAK.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Haha! I like that one - not sure if you'll find them on here, though... ;-)

Few commonalities I find from those guys were confidence, and that was about it.
Maybe that's it?

Think of Jay-Z. He is only so-so-looking (some would argue he's ugly, which I think a bit exaggerated), but he has maybe the hottest woman in the rap game. It's probably not his money (she could leave him now...she has enough money...), but he certainly has the whole from rags to riches / alpha male / confidence down like few other guys.

If he didn't and was just a rich rapper, I doubt he'd be with her..
 

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It's probably a combination of super outgoingness, swagger, and confidence.

The fact they use facebook and all to flirt with chicks helps. It's easier to sit back and plan out & say exactly what they want to hear than it is to come up with the same things impromptu in person.
 

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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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It's probably a combination of super outgoingness, swagger, and confidence.
I wonder if it's possible to get this kind of reaction without the "super outgoingness". I kind of tend to doubt it. I have no problem talking to people but I'm not always in the mood to do it. I get tired of people easily, and I know this costs me some social clout, but I'm not sure there's anything I can do about it.

Being on a campus also puts these guys in an ideal situation to work their magic, but they're obviously good at what they do. It sounds like they are the "alpha leaders" of their little party circle, which is paying off for them. I wonder how they'll do when they get into real life, with a real job, etc.?

Do you hang out with these guys? If so, maybe you can get some info on how they're doing it. How do they act around these girls? Does their behavior go along with any of the advice given here?
Are they in a frat? Athletes? From rich families?

The only other thing I would say is that if they have women hanging on them to the extent that you claim, yeah it's no wonder they're confident.
 
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