"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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DAMN mr. feel nothing feels for once

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i'm pretty good about cutting girls off when they deserve it
with this one, because i worked with her, i gave her a little more time than a normal girl
long story short, she told me she liked me - asked me what i thought of her... i stupidly answered... we sexed, made out a lot had a good time for 3 weeks... then she basically started showing a lot of signs of disinterest... i picked up on them... cut the contact... re-established it a few weeks later... only to find they were still there... today i cut her off... well i went at her hard saying i don't have time for this blah blah... she defends self... but basically says because i have a girl (who doesn't care what i do) she had to stop to save herself from falling for me... i say i don't care... next her to her face...

10 minutes later she gets fired for being late to work too much... crying - i show no remorse...

then i'm talking to her friend in the parking lot because i want to fuk her to get back at girl... and she's like 'she was just telling me today that you're the only reliable person in her life and no one else takes her serious'... and i explained to her the whole deal... and she told me that the girl wasn't lieing, that she was starting to fall for me but she knew there was no way i'd leave my girl for her... and that she doesn't have many male friends because they all wanna fuk her, and that she doesn't have many female friends because they never get along and that i had probably made a bad situation (getting fired) worse (by harsly nexting her)...

anyway, i normally have no remorse... but damn i feel bad
i cancelled my plans tonight and am downing some shots...

guess this heart of mine ticks afterall
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Ouch bro. I can see how you feel rotten.

It's her fault she got fired though, not yours. So don't feel too bad about that aspect.

Also, what remorse is possible to feel about something that is beyond your control? Remorse imo would only be possible if you felt it was your fault, yet didn't care.

Maybe you just used the wrong word but do you feel responsible for her being fired? Or do you just feel bad cause she was actually falling for you when you thought she didn't like you, and you "harshly nexted" her?

If its the latter you could contact her and soften it up a bit, but don't lead her on if you are really wanting to next her cause looks like she has enough problems at the moment haha.
 

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bukowski_merit said:
i'm pretty good about cutting girls off when they deserve it
with this one, because i worked with her, i gave her a little more time than a normal girl
long story short, she told me she liked me - asked me what i thought of her... i stupidly answered... we sexed, made out a lot had a good time for 3 weeks... then she basically started showing a lot of signs of disinterest... i picked up on them... cut the contact... re-established it a few weeks later... only to find they were still there... today i cut her off... well i went at her hard saying i don't have time for this blah blah... she defends self... but basically says because i have a girl (who doesn't care what i do) she had to stop to save herself from falling for me... i say i don't care... next her to her face...

10 minutes later she gets fired for being late to work too much... crying - i show no remorse...

then i'm talking to her friend in the parking lot because i want to fuk her to get back at girl... and she's like 'she was just telling me today that you're the only reliable person in her life and no one else takes her serious'... and i explained to her the whole deal... and she told me that the girl wasn't lieing, that she was starting to fall for me but she knew there was no way i'd leave my girl for her... and that she doesn't have many male friends because they all wanna fuk her, and that she doesn't have many female friends because they never get along and that i had probably made a bad situation (getting fired) worse (by harsly nexting her)...

anyway, i normally have no remorse... but damn i feel bad
i cancelled my plans tonight and am downing some shots...

guess this heart of mine ticks afterall

lol! Nothing like a girl crying and telling you she loves you and wants to be with you to make you feel like an a.sshole. Every now and then I catch myself in a situation like yours. Where all of the sudden you're like, "Wait a second! I actually care?!" lol!
 

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I'd say you'd have more of a problem if you didn't care.

Although, from this situation, nothing seems to be your fault. But it's still normal to feel some guilt, even if it was outside your control.
 

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Andromax said:
Also, what remorse is possible to feel about something that is beyond your control? Remorse imo would only be possible if you felt it was your fault, yet didn't care.

Maybe you just used the wrong word but do you feel responsible for her being fired? Or do you just feel bad cause she was actually falling for you when you thought she didn't like you, and you "harshly nexted" her?
i know her getting fired is beyond my control, but the timing was terrible...

i don't feel responsible for her being fired at all, in fact i warned her many times that the only real way to get fired where i work is being late or absent too much...

i feel bad about harshly nexting her
i feel bad about doing it right before she got fired (out of my control or not)
i feel bad because i thought she had tried to play me and had became bored with me or something... and it turns out she was just being honest (or her friend is a damn good lier)
i feel bad that she thought before today that i was the most reliable person in her life... i'm also sad that i am the most reliable person in her life, because i'm not really reliable... so that means the people in her life are terribly unreliable...
on top of all this her ex beat her up this past weekend and broke her cell phone to pieces in the process and she has no landline phone, so i have no way to contact her; she was going to go buy a new one tonight and i was supposed to go with her... but i don't think she's going to now... with only one more check on the way
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I KNOW WHAT WILL CHEER YOU UP!!!

bukowski_merit said:
her ex beat her up this past weekend and broke her cell phone to pieces

You know where I am going with this..

Get a couple of buddies, some ski masks etc, some lengths of airplane cable or maybe garden hose.. whatever looks like it might hurt a lot.

Jump this little bastard and fvck his world up. Karma +10.
 

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Andromax said:
I KNOW WHAT WILL CHEER YOU UP!!!




You know where I am going with this..

Get a couple of buddies, some ski masks etc, some lengths of airplane cable or maybe garden hose.. whatever looks like it might hurt a lot.

Jump this little bastard and fvck his world up. Karma +10.
haha... he's a small guy... no need to jump him
but the problem is he's in jail for breaking and entering
assault and battery, kidnapping and about 5 other charges from that night

so i guess i got to go break the law and get thrown in jail with him

i'm about to pass out though... i'm beyond drunk
 
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