"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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damn it >:(!

Lost

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Every time i go out in the sun i get f'in moles. i went to the beach yesterday and i was wearin boardshorts and a tshirt the entire time and i had sunscreen on but i still got a bunch of moles ( i think on my arms and face).
If im just walkin from a car to a store or soemthin i dont think i get em but if im out in the sun like @ the beach, or anywhere out in the sun for a while i get them.
This is really annoying cuz i enjoy the beach atmosphere... or just being out of my house .. lol.. but i dont know what to do about it because i dont wanna become a giant mole >;/. itl hide meh pretty face.
SO anyway have any ideas? (besides going to dermatologist.. ialrdy went lsat year and they removed some but i still got red marks from them...) and i was wondering of a way to NOT get moles, not necessarily to remove them ( since dermatologist is only way).
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Moles or Freckles? There's a big difference. Moles are big lumps with hair growing out of them and should be removed ASAP. Freckles are just skin pigments... and as long as they aren't overbearing, aren't a big deal to women anyways.
 

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freckles dont go above the skin, so they must be all moles...
theyre brown generally..... sometimes theyre not really big but just like dots kinda like freckles..
 

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This Australian guy I used to know had a big ass mole on the back of his head. He had it surgically removed, and he walked around with a bald patch on his head for months. :D It's pityful, the skin problems you white folks have to deal with. Oh man... Watch out, those moles could turn malignant.
 

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I recomment you go see a dermatologist ASAP. He'll be able to help you 100x more than a few DJ's on the internet.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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i just had to comment on what you said about "becoming a giant mole"

that really made me laugh, thank you.

Hopefully knowing you made someone laugh will make you a little happier.

Sorry i don't have any advice for you though.
 

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Originally posted by jakethasnake
This Australian guy I used to know had a big ass mole on the back of his head. He had it surgically removed, and he walked around with a bald patch on his head for months. :D It's pityful, the skin problems you white folks have to deal with. Oh man... Watch out, those moles could turn malignant.
It goes both ways, people with darker skin tones tend to show scarring much more then whites. Both sides have advantages, but yes I do envy those immune to sunburn, freckles, etc.
 

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Whoa, if you get moles then there must be some kind of allergy or something. DO they itch or turn your skin red in any way after words? You should really try to go to a dermatologist as soon as you can though.
 

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Lost Cause, not all moles are malignant or will turn malignant. I've been visiting my dermatologist pretty regularly for the past 5 years because of acne, and those were her exact words. So no need to run to your dermatologist about a mole unless you want it removed for cosmetic reasons.

Lost, I bet they're freckles. Even freckles can bump out a little bit. There's not much you can do about them other than wearing lots of sun screen. It's genetic.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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dude, im serious, i dont want to hae my pretty face fille with moles ;(, but its gay to have to just avoid the sun. r u sure theres nothing u can do to stop em from coming? btw my parents r from egypt(im not), altho my skin isnt very dark...
 
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