Damn it! Fell into one-itis!

[Bricka]

This really sucks. I fell into one-itis hard. Even before I started with this chick I was always vigilant , watching for signs of one-itis and nipping it in the bud before it grew. But it still crept up on me and consumed me. I never saw it coming until it was too late. It sucks so much. I knew this is just infatuation, that it's one-itis, nothing is special about this girl, same as any other, yet I am still in one-itis.

I'm going to create and market a product to detect early warning signs of one-itis!

Any recommendations on how to get out of it? I can't do anything until tonight because of work.

 

[Bigdavis]

Leave right now. Go to the Mall and hit on 10 other girls. Don't leave until you have 10 phone numbers.

 

[Bricka]

Leave right now. Go to the Mall and hit on 10 other girls. Don't leave until you have 10 phone numbers.

Can't. At work. Otherwise I'd be there in a heartbeat. That's why I said I can't do anything until tonight.

 

[Bigdavis]

Can't. At work. Otherwise I'd be there in a heartbeat. That's why I said I can't do anything until tonight.

Hit on a few girls at work. Hit on the waitress when you go to lunch

After work go to the mall and get some digits.

 

[Johnny_Kage]

First of all, good job catching the one-itis before it got out of hand. One-itis happens a lot (especially to beginners). The fact that you know you have to do something about it shows that you're taking massive steps away from AFC-ism. So congrats!

To get rid of that "one-itis feeling," analyze it for what it is. What is causing it? Why do you feel one-itis for that girl? You obviously already know that it isn't because she has any particular characteristics that you like. You acknowledge the fact that there is nothing about her to make her different than every other girl. This means that she is gaming you (probably inadvertently). She may be doing some push-pull, where one minute it seems like she's into you and the next minute it seems like she's not. Then, naturally, you start wondering. And wa-la, one-itis.

When I began noticing this, it decreased by one-itis manifestations exponentially. These days, if I get one-itis (though I'm able to control it and not reveal it to the girl), it's because I see qualities in the girl that separate her from all of the others.

Of course, 10 phone numbers never hurt anyone .

- Kage

 

[Bricka]

First of all, good job catching the one-itis before it got out of hand. One-itis happens a lot (especially to beginners). The fact that you know you have to do something about it shows that you're taking massive steps away from AFC-ism. So congrats!

To get rid of that "one-itis feeling," analyze it for what it is. What is causing it? Why do you feel one-itis for that girl? You obviously already know that it isn't because she has any particular characteristics that you like. You acknowledge the fact that there is nothing about her to make her different than every other girl. This means that she is gaming you (probably inadvertently). She may be doing some push-pull, where one minute it seems like she's into you and the next minute it seems like she's not. Then, naturally, you start wondering. And wa-la, one-itis.

When I began noticing this, it decreased by one-itis manifestations exponentially. These days, if I get one-itis (though I'm able to control it and not reveal it to the girl), it's because I see qualities in the girl that separate her from all of the others.

Of course, 10 phone numbers never hurt anyone .

- Kage

I know that theres nothing really special about this girl, but my mind is clouded because of one-itis, causing me to INVENT things in my mind that I think she has that are special. It's running amok.

 

[Answers]

All you can do is learn from it.

Some girls are great at creating this attraction. Even though it comes naturally to all girls some are still better than others. For me it's proof that men can do the same to women if you know how!

 

[Maxtro]

There are only a few ways to get over oneitis. The first way is to actually get her. The second way is to start banging other girls. The third and final way is to stop seeing her. Meaning if you never see her, your feelings for her will start to fade. Also try not to think of her at all. When you sense her popping up in your brain, immediately think of something else.

I've had hardcore oneitis for the past few months and the feelings are slowly fading because I know that I will probably never see her again. Infatuation is 90% visual. Once that stimulus is gone it's impossible to keep that feeling going. And yes it really hurt when I figured out that we will never talk again but I'm getting over it.

 

[Canadian Catnip]

Ah One-itis, I've battled that beast a time or two. Here is my take on how to get over it.

Oneitis is a biological device, hardwired into out bodies. That's what makes it so difficult to overcome sometimes, we are dealing with trying to trick millions of years of programming.

It's like being hungry, we can't just think ourselves out of being hungry. When hunger sets in, food becomes the number one thought on our mind.

So like others have already said here, you need to go out and find yourself some food to take your mind off of the food you can't have. ie: go bang some chicks or get other prospects, numbers etc.

There is another way to get over oneitis I call it the disgusting way.

It works more powerfully than just not thinking about your true love. You have to turn those warm fuzzy thoughts of her into the most disgusting image in your mind.

Imagine her in front of you her body getting fatter and fatter. Her ass is like a big watermelon. Her hair falling out and turning gray. Imagine her getting wrinkles and see her as an old hag.

Don't stop there though, if you want to really forget about her keep going. Imagine she smells really bad. She has really bad breath and doesn't wipe her ass after she uses the bathroom. She has fake teeth and facial hair.

Basically imagine her not aging well, if you can find an old women that looks a little like her and imagine that it's your oneitis 50 years from now.

You could throw in a bad personality as well for good measure. Imagine her as super needy and really stupid and petty.

It's not fun to do these kinds of things but they have worked for me. They can cut your oneitis recovery time down to less than a week.

 

[Canadian Catnip]

Here is a cure for oneitis.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4ROsQ0EjW40

 

[reset]

I know that theres nothing really special about this girl, but my mind is clouded because of one-itis, causing me to INVENT things in my mind that I think she has that are special. It's running amok.

Well, before you knew what "oneitis" was you'd be totally confused and possessed by the girl. NOW you know what it is, and you are actually EXPERIENCING the conflict between what your past conditioning is creating (the idealization of a girl) and all the things you've learned that are the opposite of your past conditioning.

Before you would have touched the hot stove without knowing why, now you're touching the hot stove, and know it's going to burn. You may still have the knee-jerk response to touch the hot stove, but right now your mind is making the connection that the only reason you are burned is becasue you touched the hot stove.

I believe you have to actually go through and experience the conflict. You are already creating new preferences on how you want to act with women, and you already know that you don't like this feeling of being posessed like by a demon.

Do you really think that once you come to terms with why you have the oneitis, that the next time it's going to be as bad? No. You've grown too much. It's a good thing.

 

[Bricka]

THe biggest problem is that I've went through one-itis before. Knew it was one-itis, eventually got out of it, yet I still got trapped in it again with this chick and I haven't learned a damn thing about how not to fall into it nor how to get myself out faster except sarging other chicks, which i'm still working on because I'm kind of introverted. I'm working on it though.

That's what's frustrating.
Edit: Although I agree it wasn't as bad this time, but it still hurt.

 

[reset]

Read this thread if you haven't already. Good stuff in the mature man forum.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=116593


This is good too.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=136262

Time to learn a damned thing or two!

Edit--for what it's worth, I'm getting over my last one-itis as I write this... there's a lesson in everything. You just have to be ready to see the problem and commit to changing it. Eventually you'll stop repeating the past.

 

[Mr. Wise]

Sorry to hear about this dude. In my experiences, there's not a "way" to get over it unless you can score someone as hot or hotter. Sometimes not even that will work. It's funny how attraction works in that you can be totally into someone and not even think of another chick even if she's better looking. Interest level blows it out the door.

Time is the only cure.

 

[Bricka]

That was a nice post Reset. I've had enough, I'm going sarging. f this sh!t!

 

[Bricka]

That was a nice post Reset. I've had enough, I'm going sarging. f this sh!t!

Well that was a bust. Decided to go to a bookstore to sarge thinking there would be some chicks there. Hardly. I saw maybe 1 or 2 that were good looking, but I was backed out =/

Grrrr....

 

[reset]

Sarge one day, sarge the next day... has it fixed your problems?