"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The ex left me for her ex and a month later found out I was dating another girl. Well she freaked out, started writing all this crap in her "journal" (crying), and saying that she "wonders what we could have become".

B1tch... you didn't give two Sh1ts when you left me. So obviously this "ex" isn't who you thought he was... now is he?

Why do girls do this? They leave thinking they can do better and than kick and scream when you move on yourself. I don't get it.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Her loss. Let her cry all she wants, you've made the best thing by moving on; you've shown her you don't need her, and she's just realizing it now.

Why do they do that? well, we all do it at some point. Generally speaking, it's a form of jealousy / envy. At some point, we all saw "that girl" having a great time with some other guy, and felt something wrong inside us... that is what she is feeling.

You did the right thing, keep it up. Do not put up with her cr@p.

-Bill
 

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Originally posted by Bill
Her loss. Let her cry all she wants, you've made the best thing by moving on; you've shown her you don't need her, and she's just realizing it now.

Why do they do that? well, we all do it at some point. Generally speaking, it's a form of jealousy / envy. At some point, we all saw "that girl" having a great time with some other guy, and felt something wrong inside us... that is what she is feeling.

You did the right thing, keep it up. Do not put up with her cr@p.

-Bill
Thanks man that actually makes sense.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Originally posted by Industry
The ex left me for her ex and a month later found out I was dating another girl. Well she freaked out, started writing all this crap in her "journal" (crying), and saying that she "wonders what we could have become".

B1tch... you didn't give two Sh1ts when you left me. So obviously this "ex" isn't who you thought he was... now is he?

Why do girls do this? They leave thinking they can do better and than kick and scream when you move on yourself. I don't get it.

Well done. Show that b!tch that you were worth keeping, and what she lost.


Justice is served.
 

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Women don't think about the possibility that a guy can continue living his life without her. When it happens, they develope this shock and think "How dare he date some other girl! He's supposed to be crying over the loss of me! Did he even love me?" You've also closed the door so she can't come back even if she wants to. I'm guessing she used to have you by the balls. You've now left her powerless over you, and it pisses her off.

They end up going through their emotional rollercoaster ride, all the time thinking about you. You're now exciting because just the mere thought of you has caused her emotions to run wildly out of control. This is also the reason women love drama so much.

Doesn't it feel great to let her stew in a pool of her emotions? Doesn't it feel great that she no longer has power over you and it's driving her nuts? Admit it, it feels fvcking fantastic!
 

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Originally posted by Desdinova
Women don't think about the possibility that a guy can continue living his life without her. When it happens, they develope this shock and think "How dare he date some other girl! He's supposed to be crying over the loss of me! Did he even love me?" You've also closed the door so she can't come back even if she wants to. I'm guessing she used to have you by the balls. You've now left her powerless over you, and it pisses her off.

They end up going through their emotional rollercoaster ride, all the time thinking about you. You're now exciting because just the mere thought of you has caused her emotions to run wildly out of control. This is also the reason women love drama so much.

Doesn't it feel great to let her stew in a pool of her emotions? Doesn't it feel great that she no longer has power over you and it's driving her nuts? Admit it, it feels fvcking fantastic!
Dude it feels GREAT!!!!!! Seriously. She did have my by the balls for a few months in the end. I was begging, crying, sending flowers... etc. I finally got strong and decided to "move on and never call her again..." as she had asked me to. Now she is the one hurten.

Since we broke up... I sobered up, got a better job, started working out, took up flying lessons, bought some new clothes, and got a totally new outlook on life. She found out about all of this PLUS my new girl and now she seriously thinks she's missing out big time... or so I think.

Fvck her. I'm not second best. You can't just leave me on the side while you test the waters out with someone else. I'm better than that! I told you things would get better and you didn't believe me. Your loss b1tch.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Doesn't it feel great to let her stew in a pool of her emotions? Doesn't it feel great that she no longer has power over you and it's driving her nuts? Admit it, it feels fvcking fantastic!

haha, it's a wonderful high isn't it?
 

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She did have my by the balls for a few months in the end. I was begging, crying, sending flowers... etc.

Bad, bad bad...lol Make sure you don't make the same mistake twice bro.
 

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Originally posted by biker_gixxer
She did have my by the balls for a few months in the end. I was begging, crying, sending flowers... etc.

Bad, bad bad...lol Make sure you don't make the same mistake twice bro.
hey do it once... its a mistake... do it twice... im a a doucebag.
 
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