Damn! I flaked on HB....

[amoka]

I scheduled date with a girl yesterday but had another date with a different girl to take care off. I would like to call her back and reschedule.... I need a better explanation as to why I did not show up at her place; worse yet, not calling her and cancel.

 

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I need a better explanation as to why I did not show up at her place; worse yet, not calling her and cancel.

No you dont, if she's into you it wouldnt even matter if you said you were shipwrecked on an island. Explanations are logical forms of thought anyway and as your aware a chicks mortal enemy. Dont bore her with YOUR meaningless contrivances, dont insult her choices of possible mate selection with something so inane as "excuses" to feed back to her.

Your here wondering which excuse is worthy, yet your unaware that if your congruent enough with how this sh!t is REALLY played in her world you could just as easily tell her you were balls deep in some other chick the entire time, it wouldnt matter if she suspects your "in" (the closest area a guy can get to understanding her social and emotional view on relationships) .

If this makes no sense to you disregard it all.

 

[Nighthawk]

You probably raised her interest levels sky-high.

 

[joekerr31]

are you guys smoking crack?

let me get this straight. your formula to increase a chics interest is to make a date, then not show up for it and then not explain why you didn't show up.

the only women i know who find that attractive are women with mental issues.
high quality women might call you up just to make sure you weren't hit by a bus or something - but aside from that their IL will drop of completely.

tell them you were busy banging some other chic and they will want nothing to do with you.

so unless you are dealing with a low quality woman or your in highschool i suggest coming up with some plausible excuse (ie. a friend go food poisoning nad you too them to the hospital or something) or just cut loose of this.

 

[WaterTiger]

I agree with JoeKerr31 here! If a guy bailed on a set date with me, he better have a damn good reason for doing so! After 30 minutes with no word, I'd be calling his cell, his house and his Mommy's house to find out what's going on.

Personally I think you guys are taking this "Oh just ignore her and she'll fall at your feet" and "Don't tell her anything about yourself to be mysterious" stuff just a little too far. It might work on stupid bimbos with no self respect, but it won't do quite as well on a woman who's IQ is higher than her shoe size.

 

[drmeathead]

send a small five dollar arrangement of flowers to where she works with a card thats says "hey (woman), time got away from me. (your name)" then see if she calls you to thank you for the flowers. then take her out. if she doesnt call her in a week. if she balks at all then she obviously cant take a joke so **** her and move on.

 

[Hitman10000]

While I agree that setting a date and flaking entirely out is very bad (To the person that did that, you really have to make it up even if you are dating multiple women.) Not too much, just an apology works and being prompt when you do show up on the actual date.

I disagree with the assertion that Watertiger made that guys shouldn't be mysterious or ignoring her will make her fall at your feet. First off, who ever suggested that? I don't want to tell the girl 1. how old am I, 2. my complete name. 3. my complete address. 4. etc etc on the first couple of dates. I like tell little tidbits here and there. Ignoring is a good thing especially if the woman did something stupid or is also ignoring you as well. Trust me WaterTiger, women on the huge point ignore their men a lot more than the otherway around. Infact to knock you off your woman post, Women are far bigger pigs than men are. I heard enough stories of girls telling me of their first sexual experience at the age of 13 and using cocaine/crack by 15 and having a baby at 17. Yes, women are the pretty little innocent princesses they are.

For men out there, if a woman is not acting or behaving in the manner that you envision your woman to be. Feel free to ignore or stop dating the current gal and seek another.

I agree with JoeKerr31 here! If a guy bailed on a set date with me, he better have a damn good reason for doing so! After 30 minutes with no word, I'd be calling his cell, his house and his Mommy's house to find out what's going on.

Personally I think you guys are taking this "Oh just ignore her and she'll fall at your feet" and "Don't tell her anything about yourself to be mysterious" stuff just a little too far. It might work on stupid bimbos with no self respect, but it won't do quite as well on a woman who's IQ is higher than her shoe size.

 

[Bonhomme]

WHY did you set 2 dates with different gals at the same time? If you had forgotten about your schedule, just call back and tell her you'd made plans you forgot were on that evening, apologize for your absentmindeness, and set another date.... if she still wants to.

Sometimes I make an offer to 2 or more gals by leaving messages, but if it's a one-on-one thing, the first one who takes me up on it is in, and I'd tell anyone else who calls back I already found someone else to go, but thanks for getting back w/me.

 

[amoka]

At times we make mistakes double booking....