dammit i fvcked up!

[surface1030]

i went out with this chick. i said lets go movies and dinner and i took her out to a nice restuarant and saw sharktale [ that movie is sooooooo funny hahaha] okay anyways after we ate, we took a walk and then we sat at these tables for like 30 minutes and just sat and talked. i wanted to kiss her so bad but i just didn't know how to do it. we were sitting close to each other and we kept on looking at each other. both smiling. i just didnt have the "get up and go" to lean over and kiss her. i was thinking like, what if this is a mistake and she doesn't want to kiss me. what if i ruin it. i want this to last. dammit. and now i'm thinking, well obviously she wanted to do something cause dammit, she went out with you, duh. lol. can anybody help me and turn my frown upside down tell me exactly what to do on our next date please

 

[oakraiderz2]

Go out with her again...go for the kiss. If you get it then all is well.

 

[Joe The Homophobe]

watch a james bond movie. Notice how 007 always says something charming, or something nice to the girl to make her feel more confortable/ease any tension.

I have copied this technique and it has worked. If you're afraid of tryng it just think of it this way,

would you rather have the girl and you be tense because of "the kiss," or would you rather say something funny/charming and have her be in a good mood just the seconds before you put a kiss on her?

make sure you are sitting close to her, then say the line (i advice you memorize a line to say before the date) and then put the kiss on her. She wasn't expecting it, but wont be angry either because you prepared her mood just right.

 

[Jerky Boi]

Although Joe does mention a good point, you can't always rely on lines to get you a kiss. It HAS to be natural. You're just over-analyzing everything in my opinion. Relax, and the date will go fine. You're obviously on the right track with this girl and you've already gotten through the hard part.


Also, in my experiences, I've realized that you should never rush the first kiss. It can come on the second, third, or maybe even a date far from the time you met the girl. If you've established good rapport and the chick's into you, then what's the rush? More than likely, she's just as nervous as you were..hell, who knows. She might have been trying to plan to kiss you the whole night and never did! Be a man, and take charge. Go for it when it feels right.

 

[Joe The Homophobe]

Originally posted by Jerky Boi
Although Joe does mention a good point, you can't always rely on lines to get you a kiss. It HAS to be natural.

im not telling him to rely on lines. What im saying is this

memorize a line or 2 before the date (i will call this the "weapon". When in the date and you're in the "moments of truth" (you two are sitting together and are close to each other, looking in the eye etc) go ahead and have a conversation. The goal of this conversation is to make her feel confortable. Then decide when to use your weapon and then put the kiss on her.

you gotta anylize the situation first. If you see that she is totally confortable with you in your conversation, say to yourself how much longer before you unleach your weapon. Do it in the right moment, if you spot a moment when she laughs/smiles a lot and seems really confortable you gotta give yourselfs a few seconds to unleash your weapon, it is the ideal time to do so.