"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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dammit, ****-blocked?

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Alright, so on the advice given on this forum, I went to see this girl with the intent on hooking up with her. I had already called her up and told her I was bringing some rum and she and I would drink it together alone, and she agreed to it.

WELL, it didn't turn out like that. It ended up being that she, I, her roommate, her friend from boston, and her (male) friend from san antonio were all visiting and hanging out with us. Lame.

So the night progressed, and as it went on, I pick up the vibes that the roommate is trying to hook up with. Lamer. So, I try my best to shrug it off, but every time I try to get alone with the girl, her roommate would be there.

We all got a lot drunk and began to talk. eventually the question of "who do you want to hook up with tonight" came up. Bear in mind, that it was only me and the guy from san antonio to choose from. immediately her roommate went "Oh, we've talked about this before. Not necessarily you to vs each other, but pros and cons of hooking up with each of you. I'd hook up with you" and so I played it off badassedly (I said something like "Psh, who wouldn't?")

The girl who I was originally interested in hooking up with? She said that between us, she'd hook up with her old friend from san antonio. **** **** dammit. I figure I've still got a shot since he's only here till tomorrow, then he leaves for good. In the mean time, I gotta think of a way to let down her roommate while still staying on good terms.

I need some advice from true DJs.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Craig Reeves

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OK, let's analyze.

OK, first of all, you actually did the right thing by sticking around for a bit even though her friends were c0ckblocking you. However, what I would have done and what you probably should have said when they started asking her who she would hook up with was to say, "You can pick from everybody but me" with a sly smile. This conveys that you are off limits until you say otherwise.

I wouldn't worry at all about what this girl SAYS. I would only go by what she DOES and that's IT. She may have said that she would hook up with her old friend from S.A. because she might feel sorry for him, think he's a nice guy, or just a friend that she feels SAFEST saying that about since she doesn't feel attraction for him. But then again, it could be because she's horny for him but I certainly would not worry about that.

I would continue to pursue her. The worst you can get is a no.

I tell guys all the time: If you like the girl, it is worth it to keep running until you hit a wall.
 

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Originally posted by Craig Reeves
OK, let's analyze.

OK, first of all, you actually did the right thing by sticking around for a bit even though her friends were c0ckblocking you. However, what I would have done and what you probably should have said when they started asking her who she would hook up with was to say, "You can pick from everybody but me" with a sly smile. This conveys that you are off limits until you say otherwise.

I wouldn't worry at all about what this girl SAYS. I would only go by what she DOES and that's IT. She may have said that she would hook up with her old friend from S.A. because she might feel sorry for him, think he's a nice guy, or just a friend that she feels SAFEST saying that about since she doesn't feel attraction for him. But then again, it could be because she's horny for him but I certainly would not worry about that.

I would continue to pursue her. The worst you can get is a no.

I tell guys all the time: If you like the girl, it is worth it to keep running until you hit a wall.
Cool, good advice. I thought about that - when she said "I'd hook up with my old friend" she was blushing A LOT and said it with a moan. Like, she really didn't want to say it, so either she really was horny for him, like you said, or she felt safest? Who knows.

Check it - when I was leaving, her roommate said that they'd call me tomorrow to see if I wanted to hang out. Kinda lame, but tomorrow it'll only be the girl, her roommate, and me. Her friend from boston and the guy from SA leave tomorrow.

So what should I say? Yes or no?
 

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I know its hard but you can't worry about what this chick is doing with other guys. If she is your GF then thats a different story.

Ignore what she says and judge things by what she does - if she wants you around she likes you regardless of what she is saying.
 

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mistakes

that was a bad move and now she has her own separate feelings about you, my opinion is that youre a total idiot, she obviously was never actually attracted to you.

what signs did she ever even give you? first impressions mang.

you have to get yourself in a whole different mind set and stop lying to yourself, inside you know whats really happening. she probably knows you like her and feels sorry for your ass.

remember that no broad is just gonna jump on your ****, it just wont happen unless its some fat ugly desperate slob.

learn how to carry yourself like a man, A MAN OF ACTION.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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