"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Damaged Goods

pdx1138

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I went through this from 2009-2011

What a roller coaster. It affected me physically too, I remember feeling very sick and even took a day off of work once.

It was a great life lesson if nothing else. Painful yes...but very valuable.

I went from clueless AFC to "on guard and watch your back" ever since.

In the middle of that time, when I figured out what her play was, I began caring less and decided to bang her as many times as I could, then move on and thats what I did.

Truth be told, the sex was some of the best I've had.

This forum gave me the knowledge I needed to make it through. What I read about on this forum is exactly what she did to the point she became 100% predictable, that was kinda fun to witness.

If I had a chance to go back and do it differently I wouldn't change a thing.
On the other hand, I won't allow myself to get into a situation like that again.
Once was plenty.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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A ONS is as far as I go if the damaged goods traits are visible enough.
 

metoo

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why would you even say hello to one that was obvioiusly damaged?
 

pdx1138

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well, you need to talk to them to figure out if they are damaged.

but ya, if I noticed they were damaged from someone who knew them, I'd steer clear (and have)
 
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