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Daddy issues - 1 that died when she was young, same abandonment issue?

pikachu69

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Daddy issues. What about a girl who's dad died when she was 8? is that the same as him abandoning her to an 8 year old?

She's really difficult to get close to, like noone seems to be able to get close to her except for me. She was the youngest sister of 3 sisters, her middle sister was the troublesome one most affected by the dad dying, the sister has been married once, now has a baby with not husband just a bf.

I get the impression my girl got less attention because of the disruptive older sister taking up her mothers attention and feels that because her parents already had 2 girls they wanted a boy. It's sad but that's how she feels. When she was 6 she tried to runaway from home.

She's very secretive, constantly sees guys for coffee. I read somewhere on here that girls like this are the types to have 2-3 guys they're fvcking in between the coffee and don't make good gf's. She was honest enough to tell me she's always going for coffee with guys but I doubt in a relationship she'll always tell me where she's going or doing.

Last year when she was at a different study abroad school in this country she said she had no friends, she was working at the same time, and i know she had a long term bf. Now she seems to just want to have fun after having a miserable last year.
 

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pikachu69 said:
Daddy issues. What about a girl who's dad died when she was 8? is that the same as him abandoning her to an 8 year old?

She's really difficult to get close to, like noone seems to be able to get close to her except for me. She was the youngest sister of 3 sisters, her middle sister was the troublesome one most affected by the dad dying, the sister has been married once, now has a baby with not husband just a bf.

I get the impression my girl got less attention because of the disruptive older sister taking up her mothers attention and feels that because her parents already had 2 girls they wanted a boy. It's sad but that's how she feels. When she was 6 she tried to runaway from home.

She's very secretive, constantly sees guys for coffee. I read somewhere on here that girls like this are the types to have 2-3 guys they're fvcking in between the coffee and don't make good gf's. She was honest enough to tell me she's always going for coffee with guys but I doubt in a relationship she'll always tell me where she's going or doing.
Chicks with Daddy issues can be the best, but maybe not-if you are trying to get emotionally close to her. As far as building a relationship: Take it slow, very slow, but make sure you are banging her while you take it slow.

I type very words about this issue here, because words are not as compelling as the spoken word. Try this:

http://www.extremebumming.com/Leykis-2007-06-18_Hr4-ChicksWithDaddyIssues.mp3
 

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This is good, it explains a lot.

Even if she mentions stuff randomly i.e. 'oh i bumped into this 50 year old university professor from your country who was struggling with buying a subway ticket cos he couldn't read the language so i helped him'

I just got very paranoid after all the daddy issues assuming she f'd him haha.. is this too far fetched?

also the hotel next to campus she didn't know where it was, and i took her there to the hotel bar, and she said to me 'oh is this the hotel? i was looking for this for a professor..' I go 'u mean the university professor guy u helped?'

she retorted 'no a female 1 from my country'.. everything seems suspicious.
 
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