Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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SgtSplacker

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I don't know about you guys but I always grew up knowing I just cant pick the prettiest girl and expect her to like me. Heck I cant even bet on the ugly girls to like me. People are people and if there are a particular type of girls you like, then girls have a particular type of guys they like. If you have a very particular appearance then you have to find a woman that particularly likes that. Get it? You cant get all down in the dumps thinking your a mutant, wipe that crap out of your head and clear your eyes because you might miss that special someone while your QQing. I'm pretty sure every single guy here has to play by these rules, this is not unique to anyone.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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This is true. Everyone has different tastes, standards, and things they're looking for. Too many people assume there is something they are doing wrong, and need to change - when that might not at all be the case. It's not always about you. You're just not someone's type, not of the same wave-length, aren't looking for the same things, don't share similar interests, etc, etc. You aren't flawed, and they aren't shallow. You don't match. Big deal. No sense killing yourself trying to live up to someone's standards, and becoming something you're not just to appease them. Rejection should not be taken so personally. If they're rude about it - then, they're *****es anyway, and you can be considered lucky to learn that early on. This has nothing to do with you, either. They are the ones who are miserable and have problems.

In conclusion: find someone who actually LIKES you, and with whom you are compatible with. They do exist. Most people are just desperate, and cling onto the first attractive person who shows any kind of interest, or is just being friendly. Then, they become obsessed, over-analyze everything, etc - when they're not even compatible in the first place.

Be selective, be picky, find what you're looking for, have patience, don't settle, and accept rejection. If you can reject them - they can reject you. It doesn't mean you or they are horrible and selfish. Just know what you want, and won't stop until you find it.
 

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EXACTLY Floydb25 your spot on!

I have actually "gotten the girl" before. That woman you just saw, and blew your mind away, that you didnt ever think you could have. That prettiest girl. The first pick of anyone you knew. First time I saw her pictures I had shortness of breath, no joking, no exaggerating. That had NEVER happened to me before. After I got to know her and make her my GF, I had to let her go. Feels bad man. Long story short, the girl was a drama magnet big time, major BPD and in total denial of it too. I was miserable, but it was all for the better.

Point is, THAT girl may not be all that. Find someone that is good for you. That is right for you. That matches you. It's a process of trial and error, but it's not your fault if it fails. It just wasn't meant to be. Stop trying to be accepted, and start trying to accept...

Think about it, you know this is right and true...
 

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floydb25 said:
This is true. Everyone has different tastes, standards, and things they're looking for. Too many people assume there is something they are doing wrong, and need to change - when that might not at all be the case. It's not always about you. You're just not someone's type, not of the same wave-length, aren't looking for the same things, don't share similar interests, etc, etc. You aren't flawed, and they aren't shallow. You don't match. Big deal. No sense killing yourself trying to live up to someone's standards, and becoming something you're not just to appease them. Rejection should not be taken so personally. If they're rude about it - then, they're *****es anyway, and you can be considered lucky to learn that early on. This has nothing to do with you, either. They are the ones who are miserable and have problems.

In conclusion: find someone who actually LIKES you, and with whom you are compatible with. They do exist. Most people are just desperate, and cling onto the first attractive person who shows any kind of interest, or is just being friendly. Then, they become obsessed, over-analyze everything, etc - when they're not even compatible in the first place.

Be selective, be picky, find what you're looking for, have patience, don't settle, and accept rejection. If you can reject them - they can reject you. It doesn't mean you or they are horrible and selfish. Just know what you want, and won't stop until you find it.
Read this again and again!!!
 
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