Cvmmed on a girl's face, think I've blown it.

[Ozel599]

Excuse the pun.

This is/was a FB only, we've not been out on any dates. We first met briefly about 5 years ago (nothing happened) then a few months back from now got talking on facebook one evening. We got flirty, I asked for her address and over I went.

Since then it's been the most enjoyable fvck buddy ever! Great petite body, smooth soft skin, very willing to please, always wears a sexy outfit for me.

There has been no phone conversations, she doesn't have my number. On line chats were saucy and about what we were going to try next.

Anyway, she has let me finish in her mouth numerous amount of times and she seemed to enjoy it. Last time I told her I wanted to finish on her face (we spoke about it previously and she said she has not done it before), she seemed very hesitant put didn't say no or physically stop me.

Well, it was one huge load, she goes running off to the bathroom saying "that was really mean!". When I left I knew that didn't go down well as she didn't even want to kiss (and yes she had cleaned up by then).

I playfully brought up the subject on Facebook about a week after, she said she didn't enjoy it, I apologized saying "ok, we won't be doing that again".

Thought I had her interest back when she asked "When are you next free?". But started to see flaky behaviour and blunt responses. Last time we were supposed to meet, I sent her a quick message with a time, had no reply until very late that night saying she was available but has only just seen the message, another guy perhaps?

Since then I've not replied, its been a few days.

Would you suggest going no contact or trying just one more time?

I don't want to make a fool of myself, but I really feel disappointed about loosing this playmate - had a loads of fun!

Feel like a kid when someone has broke my Xbox, very gutted!

 

[Ronaldo7]

LOL.

Wh0res love to be treated wh0res. She was probably a bit shocked, but like the previous poster said, you should play it cool.

 

[PlayHer Man]

I agree with others on playing it cool. Don't make her issue your issue. Don't let a woman's whimsical emotions throw you off balance. Be a rock.

All men need to remember that any woman can lose interest at any time for any retarded reason. Always deal with women with the assumption that they'll bail one day (if you don't first).

In other words --> Don't get too attached. Just have fun. When the fun ends.. move on to the next chick.

 

[muhnkee]

I will say you made one mistake: you talked to her about it instead of just doing it.

Giving a woman the option to grant you any permission in the chain of responsibility for a sexual act can backfire in unpredictable ways. Also, apologizing in the face of a woman's outrage is pretty much always a mistake. You took a dominant action and when she got pissed you told her you wouldn't do it again.

The only solution -- if she ever gives you the chance again -- is to stick to the dominant frame and pick another awful act. Only this time, make it happen without involving her opinion and don't apologize if she gets pissed.

Also, frankly, I'm guessing she felt how "gutted" you were. Women are sensitive to sudden drops in male dominance. You may have just exposed yourself for the beta and fearful herb you are, son. Odds are this is a life lesson.

 

[Jaylan]

Certain things you have to run by a chick and make sure shes ok with it before trying sexually. And by ok with it, I mean a big yes. Thats how you can avoid this kinda crap...especially when it comes to cvm, since so many girls have different likes and dislikes with it.

Im sure if a check was into putting fingers up a guys bum during oral, that youd wanna be able to tell her no if that wasnt your thing. I actually had a girl try to sneak a finger near my bum once and I look at her like o.0. Yeah some guys may be into the whole prostate massage thing, but not me.

So yeah, the point is that with certain sexual acts, you need to get the ok from someone before taking liberty to do what you want. It does seem like you blew it, but oh wells bro. On to the next girl, and take this as a learning experience.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

yeah....she got pissed about something you guys already talked about and pretty much agreed on doing. Then you acted like a puppy dog and said "ok, we won't be doing that again".....stating you were okay with her irrational behavior and you still wanted to see her. Like everyone alluded to....you acted beta, and gave away your man card for that short time. She's got you...game over.

 

[handle]

There is nothing wrong with talking about it beforehand, especially if she is hesitant. She may have just been really shocked -- at first she thought it was all cool but in the moment it didn't feel right. Fair enough.

I'd leave the ball in her court re: contact. You checked in, she wasn't enthusiastic, time to move on. She might just take a week to get back into it or something.

 

[Ozel599]

Well she messaged me in the meantime, going all serious saying how she hates being second best and promised herself never to have her heart broken again.

What that actual fvck? Don't understand how she can get hurt, it was just pure sex and was going to be nothing more.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Your FB relationship was already making her feel like a wh0re. The facial was just a small straw that broke the camel's back.

You can either back off and wait to see if she ever contacts you again. Or if you think she's worth it, you can try to make her feel like less of a wh0re. Take her out for some cheap Chinese food, or do some sort of token date thing. She will still be your wh0re if you can keep her from feeling like one.

 

[casaanova]

You gave her too much hand when you started apologizing, it had nothing to do with you blogging on her face. You should've just laughed it off and changed the subject/went out to breakfast somewhere, but when you went out of your way to apologize she realized she had something 'over' you, and now it's unlikely that she's gonna give it up. This is why she's going cold on you, and probably looking for more hand from other people (mainly guys, she'll play over 10 betas until she hits a snag on an alpha - depending on how attractive she is and the dry spell he might be in, she may or may not come back to you)

Well she messaged me in the meantime, going all serious saying how she hates being second best and promised herself never to have her heart broken again.

What that actual fvck? Don't understand how she can get hurt, it was just pure sex and was going to be nothing more.

That's exactly what happens when you give a woman too much hand - now she's calling the shots (no matter how out-of-context), and she wants a relationship-sealed signing bonus for getting back with you. If there was ever a time to go no contact, this is it. DO NOT cave, if you do you will never have sex with this girl again

 

[Igetit!]

I will say you made one mistake: you talked to her about it instead of just doing it.

Giving a woman the option to grant you any permission in the chain of responsibility for a sexual act can backfire in unpredictable ways. Also, apologizing in the face of a woman's outrage is pretty much always a mistake. You took a dominant action and when she got pissed you told her you wouldn't do it again.

The only solution -- if she ever gives you the chance again -- is to stick to the dominant frame and pick another awful act. Only this time, make it happen without involving her opinion and don't apologize if she gets pissed.

Also, frankly, I'm guessing she felt how "gutted" you were. Women are sensitive to sudden drops in male dominance. You may have just exposed yourself for the beta and fearful herb you are, son. Odds are this is a life lesson.

Perfection.......+1 rep.


Honestly,even though the chick seemed upset,I don't think it was the blowing in her face that caused her interest to wane,but the SHEEP-ISH behavior the OP showed in response to her getting upset.

 

[Ozel599]

Well that's the first time I've been refereed to having the behaviour of a sheep!

Originally I thought she just had someone new

I really love women and the whole dating thing in general, but it really peevs me when off this happens. Not towards the particular wh0re but I feel it just always seems to be the tiniest of "mistakes" that causes a woman's interest to deflate instantly.

 

[Colossus]

As long as you can keep a girl feeling like isn't a wh0re, you can jizz wherever you want. They love that stuff when they feel like they belong and are loved. Sounds gay, but like BB said she was already your FB which probably had her feeling slvtty on some level.

 

[JoeMarron]

It seems pretty simple to me. She caught feelings and is now using this issue to be upset with you when in fact she just wants more than a fb. I'd recommend dropping her if you dont want a relationship. Dont tell her this just go ghost and let her contact you, make plans etc.

 

[Ozel599]

Seems like she does want to play "boyfriend & girlfriend".

I didn't initiate anything, she's tried fluff talk. My response was cold but friendly without much effort the keep the conversation going.

She then offered to cook a full meal for me this weekend. Either way, can't go wrong with free food.

 

[TheCWord]

I did this with a chick last night. Her and I both found it really hot. Made her beg for it and everything. Sometimes girls love acting out those porn star roles with you as long as you've adequately built trust and comfort - and that's on you to do.

 

[888]

I've had something similar happen too and it just makes no sense to me. I came on a girl's tits and she was mad for the rest of the day. Girls will be totally okay with sucking you off, or letting you pop a load in their mouth, or even swallowing, but as soon as you actually jizz ON them it becomes this huge disrespect or something.

They usually get over it pretty quickly though, just give her time to cool off.