Cutting off father

[Thebestthereeveris]

My father is complacent and his life is falling apart around him. Hes completely broke, doesnt have a job, relies on the government for money, is a beta got used by my stepmom to have two kids which i dont think are even his and have the emotional control of a ****ing two year old. Im going to cut him from my life but for now he has to be in it. How do i not let his b1tchassness effect me?

 

[Stanley]

How do i not let his b1tchassness effect me?

By cutting him out?
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[manfrombelow]

By cutting him out?
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This.

I am a die-hard believer in cutting off toxic people from your life, even - and especially - your parents. For starters, get your own place to live. It's hard to really detach from a toxic parent while you're still living under the same roof with them.

 

[SargeMaximus]

My father is complacent and his life is falling apart around him. Hes completely broke, doesnt have a job, relies on the government for money, is a beta got used by my stepmom to have two kids which i dont think are even his and have the emotional control of a ****ing two year old. Im going to cut him from my life but for now he has to be in it. How do i not let his b1tchassness effect me?

I’d block if possible. I did that to my mom for a while

 

[member160292]

Don’t cut him off. Not all apples fall from the same branch. We are given a wealth of info, lucky enough to come across this site.
My father is the same way, probably worst that he is convinced I will die alone unless I go to a third world country and marry a random chick

All you can do is just smile and wave to these people

 

[Thebestthereeveris]

This.

I am a die-hard believer in cutting off toxic people from your life, even - and especially - your parents. For starters, get your own place to live. It's hard to really detach from a toxic parent while you're still living under the same roof with them.

honestly i would love to but right now i cant due to several unfortunate things. I am fixing my financial situation asap and moving out as soon as i can. But for now i have to live under his roof. I can live with my gf but fvck that i heard nightmare stories of dudes moving in with their girl. What do you guys suggest i do to not let his influence effect me? As much as I can hope that it won't and i am my own man thinking about him does fvck with me. By the way i posted this here becaues i posted it on other forums and they gave me blue pilled npc responses like wow i feel bad for your father and all that.

 

[Thebestthereeveris]

By cutting him out?
¯\_(ツ)_/¯

id love to but i cant rn cause im living with him. Im going to move out asap and have jobs and will in the eventual future but i need to know right now how i cant let it effect me.

 

[Stanley]

id love to but i cant rn cause im living with him. Im going to move out asap and have jobs and will in the eventual future but i need to know right now how i cant let it effect me.

Set boundaries brother, I live at home and butt heads with my mother. I'm on my way out as well. If you are empathetic learn to shut that off while around your dad, his problems are not your own. Don't internalize or personalize em.

Things that i've done to stay sane
-Keep to myself in general
-Carry my own weight
-Do not allow any chores or things to be done around the house not by you, less you want covert contracts on behalf of your pop...
-Divide up your space, keep distance between your dad and you
-Get out of the house whenever necessary, seriously anything man. Go out, walk, jog, drive, library whatever
-Avoid confrontation at all costs, be cordial as possible even when you're in the right.
-Pay for your self at every opportunity you can, rent if needed.
-Get yourself into a physical hobby or hit the gym, best thing for me when i'm po'ed is angry lifting
-Therapy
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I feel ya, hang tight and keep doing your own thing and get outta there when you are financially able. Also, if you're not meeting your own needs make sure you get on that. No More Mr. nice Guy is a good book for that if you haven't read it.

 

[Thebestthereeveris]

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Set boundaries brother, I live at home and butt heads with my mother. I'm on my way out as well. If you are empathetic learn to shut that off while around your dad, his problems are not your own. Don't internalize or personalize em.

Things that i've done to stay sane
-Keep to myself in general
-Carry my own weight
-Do not allow any chores or things to be done around the house not by you, less you want covert contracts on behalf of your pop...
-Divide up your space, keep distance between your dad and you
-Get out of the house whenever necessary, seriously anything man. Go out, walk, jog, drive, library whatever
-Avoid confrontation at all costs, be cordial as possible even when you're in the right.
-Pay for your self at every opportunity you can, rent if needed.
-Get yourself into a physical hobby or hit the gym, best thing for me when i'm po'ed is angry lifting
-Therapy
____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
I feel ya, hang tight and keep doing your own thing and get outta there when you are financially able. Also, if you're not meeting your own needs make sure you get on that. No More Mr. nice Guy is a good book for that if you haven't read it.

lmfao i do literally all those things except therapy. i also establish strong boundaries so he cant guilt trip me of cleaning or whatever into anything because i have my own space. I am going to work overtime every day to spend time out the house and get more money to move out and save. No more mr nice guy is a great book. I read a lot of redpill books when i waas 18 im going to re read them with a new perspective and apply it. Thanks for the advice

 

[Stanley]

lmfao i do literally all those things except therapy. i also establish strong boundaries so he cant guilt trip me of cleaning or whatever into anything because i have my own space. I am going to work overtime every day to spend time out the house and get more money to move out and save. No more mr nice guy is a great book. I read a lot of redpill books when i waas 18 im going to re read them with a new perspective and apply it. Thanks for the advice

Sounds like you know what to do man. keep on keeping on.

 

[EyeBRollin]

He’s your pops. You only get one. Cherish him. Go grab a beer with him. Do not enable him. Respect him. He is your father and that is good enough.

 

[Barrister]

Sounds like your dad sucks with women and money. A bad combination to be sure, but I haven't heard anything that he is doing that is directly adverse to you specifically. In fact, he is letting you live under his roof at age 27 when he doesn't have to. Your response, just based on what you have told us so far, to "cut off" your father from your life because he doesn't do certain things well seems incredibly harsh. I understand he may be a blue-pill beta male, but he IS your dad.

Now, maybe there is something you haven't told us and he does deserve to be cut off. But, I haven't read anything to that effect.

 

[Thebestthereeveris]

Sounds like your dad sucks with women and money. A bad combination to be sure, but I haven't heard anything that he is doing that is directly adverse to you specifically. In fact, he is letting you live under his roof at age 27 when he doesn't have to. Your response, just based on what you have told us so far, to "cut off" your father from your life because he doesn't do certain things well seems incredibly harsh. I understand he may be a blue-pill beta male, but he IS your dad.

Now, maybe there is something you haven't told us and he does deserve to be cut off. But, I haven't read anything to that effect.

He hasnt done anything directly to me. The fact that he gets used by women and gives money away and is very chumpish does effect me as seeing him lazy demoralizes me. I try my best not to spend time at home and i will leave soon. I dont take the fact he lets me live under his roof for granted i keep everything clean and buy everything myself never asking him for money. The fact that he doesnt work or look for ways to get money and gets finnesed by women fvcks with me indiectly.

 

[Thebestthereeveris]

Sounds like your dad sucks with women and money. A bad combination to be sure, but I haven't heard anything that he is doing that is directly adverse to you specifically. In fact, he is letting you live under his roof at age 27 when he doesn't have to. Your response, just based on what you have told us so far, to "cut off" your father from your life because he doesn't do certain things well seems incredibly harsh. I understand he may be a blue-pill beta male, but he IS your dad.

Now, maybe there is something you haven't told us and he does deserve to be cut off. But, I haven't read anything to that effect.

me and him are complete opposites in every way. I have several plates and all are super feminine submissive and sexual. I work two jobs currently working on a side business that can hopefully earn me enough to never rely on a job again and i hit the gym everyday. He tells me to not hit the gym and he got finessed hard by my step mom. He believes in covid and vaccines, i dont. He belives in masks i dont. Idk how i came from his balls some days.

 

[corrector]

In about 20 years he'll get older and will be a different person then he is today.