For summer, I plan on doing something a little unique. Since high school is over, the next big thing is college. Before then, I want to improve myself. I feel that I need to cut off contacts with all my friends, and explore my surroundings. Get a job, meet new people, learn to not depend on my friends, etc. I know i can do all those while keeping in touch with my friends, but i feel like it won't be the same. I need to do this on my own with nothing holding me back. Do you guys think its justifyable?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Cutting Off Contacts
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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Why would you completely cut off your friends? Unless they are really bringing you down, like they are drug addicts or something, then that seems a little extreme. What happens if you want them back?
PRMoon
Master Don Juan
college is a chance for new beginnings. Do a "houdini" change your address, phone number, and email, and start fresh. Who gives a flying f*ck about your HS friends. They're history now!
thats extreme, but everyone loses contact w/ 75% of their hs friends after fall rolls around.PRMoon said:college is a chance for new beginnings. Do a "houdini" change your address, phone number, and email, and start fresh. Who gives a flying f*ck about your HS friends. They're history now!
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
mmx
Don Juan
I cut off all contact with my high school "friends" when I graduated and started a brand new life. I started making money off websites, joined the gym (still going strong) and made new friends in college.
Haven't looked back since.
Haven't looked back since.
mmx
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Yes, temporarly of course. To be honest, I did meet up with my old high school buddies a year after cutting off contact with them... they kept telling me how I changed, how good I look, etc.Oni said:Its not permanent, just temporary. I just need some time to myself. Know what i mean? On the other note, making money off websites?? How??
As for the matter on how to make money off websites... that's a whole different topic, one that cannot be explained on a forum or within a small time frame. You got to do a lot of reading, practicing, research, designing, etc...
Thoroughly recommend it. If you feel the need tell your GOOD friends that you're going away for a while, just so they don't feel sh*tty when you arrive back. In saying that, I've always maintained that your true friends will always welcome you back no matter how much time has gone by.
Be strong, cut ALL contact, no phone calls, nothing... The true test of a man is his composure and resilience under difficult circumstances in foreign territory. It will test your ability to relate to people. Become a man of mystery, you will eventually return (that's if you actually want to) a more interesting person. Haha everyone loves the stories the wanderer has to tell...
Be strong, cut ALL contact, no phone calls, nothing... The true test of a man is his composure and resilience under difficult circumstances in foreign territory. It will test your ability to relate to people. Become a man of mystery, you will eventually return (that's if you actually want to) a more interesting person. Haha everyone loves the stories the wanderer has to tell...
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Im not datin irl. SHes dead for me. No talks, no answer for questions, no sms, phone or msn.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.