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Cutting-calorie intake question.

j0n024

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Hey guys...

I started to cut and I want to know how much calories I SHOULD be intaking cause I've heard lots of different opinions.

I read the vault and Diesels cutting thread hell I have it as a TAB right now but I heard other things as well.

I DO eat at least 4-6 times a day ranging from egg's (Scrambled,boiled) and whey shakes , tuna sandwhich.

I have calculated that I eat 840 calories with 2 servings of tuna sandwhiches (That's with 2 slices of bread each) and the shakes on my workout days (1 before workout and one after)

Is this enough calories to cut properly or do I need to eat more? I have gone down 10 pounds so I dont know if it's cause of the fat loss or muscle loss right now....I do still do cardio 13mins (6hitt,6rest,1warmup) and then max out so I can keep my muscle mass so I think I am doing good just need to know if i AM or not.
 

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with the way you're exercising, i think you shout intake more calories. the recommended for one day is 1200 for anyone.
 

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Never go below 1500 calories unless you want to look emaciated. If you're sedentary, stay around 1800-2300. If you're active, stay above 2500-2700. To burn calories, do activities. Play sports, hit the gym, do cardio, etc.
 

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A good way to start would be counting your calories consistently in fitday.com. Regardless of what your primary goals are, you should be getting at LEAST 1 gram of protein/lb of bodyweight, in addition to some healthy carbs (like veggies) and healthy fats. When you stop losing weight, cut calories more. As long as you are in a deficit, you will lose weight.
 

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The reason why I keep on making posts about cutting and the like is that I dont see any difference.

I do see definition but I dont feel like I am losing weight nor does it look like it has happened, I just want to get a low body fat %.

I as well keep going between 193-200 so that is why I keep asking but you guys are saying that I should stay around 2200 calories is that right?
 

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j0n024 said:
The reason why I keep on making posts about cutting and the like is that I dont see any difference.

I do see definition but I dont feel like I am losing weight nor does it look like it has happened, I just want to get a low body fat %.

I as well keep going between 193-200 so that is why I keep asking but you guys are saying that I should stay around 2200 calories is that right?

i've gotten away from counting calories since its pretty unrealiable. Its easier to get on a diet when you eat the exact samething everyday, from there making changes is very simple. For cutting look up simple starting diet, set something up that you can eat everday and only have carbs the first 2 meals, do mod cardio 3-5 days a week for 45min-1hour in the form of a brisk walk.
 

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EFFORT said:
i've gotten away from counting calories since its pretty unrealiable. Its easier to get on a diet when you eat the exact samething everyday, from there making changes is very simple. For cutting look up simple starting diet, set something up that you can eat everday and only have carbs the first 2 meals, do mod cardio 3-5 days a week for 45min-1hour in the form of a brisk walk.
You're right about most of what you posted. Also, it would help some to log what they cosume at least for a few weeks, so they could use that as a baseline reference. Sometimes people have difficulty just winging it, I know cuz I'm one of them!
 

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counting calories is highly effective for losing/gaining weight BUT it requires perfect estimation of portions, which is something that humans are not wired for, and it requires on-going dedication, which flags for most of us given enough time.

effort's idea is beautiful, from a simplicity standpoint -- measure exactly what's going in with a great deal of precision, and then all you have to count on an on-going basis is the changes you make. of course, this works best if you like eating basically the same thing every day.
 

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Throttle said:
of course, this works best if you like eating basically the same thing every day.

yeah i agree, this is the tough part for a lot of people. Having a cheat day can help a lot with this.
 

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Throttle said:
counting calories is highly effective for losing/gaining weight BUT it requires perfect estimation of portions, which is something that humans are not wired for, and it requires on-going dedication, which flags for most of us given enough time.

effort's idea is beautiful, from a simplicity standpoint -- measure exactly what's going in with a great deal of precision, and then all you have to count on an on-going basis is the changes you make. of course, this works best if you like eating basically the same thing every day.
I'm referring to the fact of counting calories ROUGHLY to have an idea from a starting point, it's just one of many methods. Once you have an idea, then it's easier to adjust your calories accordingly. Not everyone needs to be extremely precise about what they log, I know I don't. Life tends to get in the way when you try to be perfect.

I'm speaking solely for myself when i say that I find it extremely easy to log calories, and once I have an idea of my general/average daily intake, especially if its the same food day in and day out, then I'm less inclined to measure perfectly as I already know how much I am roughly consuming.

Like posted above, keep it simple and you will figure out what works for you.
 

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Throttle said:
counting calories is highly effective for losing/gaining weight BUT it requires perfect estimation of portions, which is something that humans are not wired for,
I weighed stuff for long enough that i can pretty much perfectly eyeball the stuff I eat anymore without bothering.

Once in a while I measure it just to see if i'm doing it right and i always do.
 

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mrruckus, a short quiz.
average chicken breast (a half breast on technical terms) would be about what oz raw?
i can never tell :(
 
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