"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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cutting a girl some slack after sex?

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This might sound a bit banal, but how much slack do you cut a girl after she's given it up? For example, if she's texting you and asking you to call her sometime. Do you still play it cool or give her a call? What about taking her out? This is assuming you do want to see her again. This is part of my game that needs a bit more fine tuning.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

Read more...

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if you already had sex with the girl, that shows your doing something right. one of the worst fears some women have is when the man has sex with her, but afterwards, treats her differently (ie. talks less, tries to avoid her, leaves her for someone better).

your game never changes, only improves. your putting emphasis on her in order to judge your own actions and moves. if you act uncertain like you are now, she will be in control if you like it or not.

now to directly answer your question;
if she txts you asking you to call her sometime, do it. notice she said to call "sometime", that means whenever you become available.

you should take her out whenever you feel its a good time. in the future, twist the rule and tell her she will take you out(dont make this a habit, just something you should try sometimes).

if it makes you feel any better, pretend you never had sex with her. treat her the same as you would before you did her.
 

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Thanks for the input. I think this is a good time to discuss some overall strategies for post-sex procedures.

In my personal experience I've never casually dated. I either got involved in LTRs right off the bat or hit & split so this is a new area to me. In other words, I need some help with finding and maintaining the fine line between casual dating (and keeping the girl interested) and a relationship.
 

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This question will seperate the men from the boys.

Do you cut her slack?

No.

As PleasureKing said what works will continue to work.

I'll never forget the first girl I seduced using "tactics" I read about at similar sites.

Lot of c&f, negs, take aways, never giving a straight answer... etc etc... went into the seduction. The sex was great. She called me two days later and wanted to have "drinks."

I met her at a bar and (I'm a totally chilled out relaxed guy... it takes effort for me to bust on a girl that much and to be honest now that I'd ****ed her I couldn't be arsed) and I was totally relaxed and friendly like I am most of the time.

She began looking at me funny and challenging me. I just shrugged it off not caring. I walked her home and didn't get an invite in. I didn't try because her behaviour had become increasingly weird over the night and that pissed me off.

Halfway home I got a text saying "I don't think we should see each other. Its like we have no connectiohn at all. Weird..."

So in the spirit of science I wanted to see what was up. I texted back a smart arse comment that knocked her back into her place and had to seduce her again from scratch.

And yes, I discovered that being a lazy chilled out dude it was too much effort to have to do such work intensive seductions because whatever you do to get a girl you have to keep doing.

So if you want to be able to chill with a chick then you have to tailor your pick up technique to allow you to be chilled.

And another point, if you use a lot of technique you will be given the Spanish Inquisition after sex if you're good. If you're bad you just wont hear from her again... *cough cough* so I am told...

JJ
 

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Thanks jay, I know where you're coming from. Another question I always wondered is how often you should see a girl you've slept with.

once a week?

twice?

I know it might sound simplistic, but to me it's always made a huge difference.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Depends on how powerful her sex drive is.

My rule of thumb.

If she wants to **** everyday... lots.

If she wants to **** once a week... once a week.

JJ
 
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