Alittude said:
So I stop off at subway to get some food for the stomach and there is a cute girl working there. She begins asking me casual questions about my day and about the night. So I hold very good eye contact and give her slight smiles and she is digging it up. Then when we are talking about her studying in uni (college) she asks me what I study and I told her that I was in year 11 at highschool. Well she kinda nervously laughed and bit her lip and had the look on her face of 'omg I was just flirting with a yr 11'.
The thing do you think I should of lied about my age and got the number or would it be impossible to make anything from this?
Some tips for next time would be greatly appreciated thanks.
I've had this problem for ages. I began learning this when I was 15, and I'd go out opening 18+ year olds, and because I look a lot older than I am, this was a huge barrier that I had to deal with.
What you want to do is, first, convey that you are comfortable with it, give off a laugh, joke about it.
Eg. Her: Omg! You're 17?
Me: Haha yeah, sorry you're too old for me, I'm an active guy you know, you might not be able to keep up with me... with your cane and everything...
Then, what you want to do is, throughout the interaction you want to hint or anchor that you have been with girls a lot older/younger than you are, and you understand the problems and difficulties that can arise.
Eg. Hinting that you understand dating older women is a social taboo, that you've done it before and kept it under wraps and was a great experience for you and the woman.
You have to make her feel comfortable with the idea that seeing a younger guy is ok. It takes time, but it's worth the effort, and is great practice.
Try it out, you'll pick up a lot of other things along the way, but only through social calibration will you improve.
-Good luck.
