"Blank Mind on Dates? She's Dropping Hints You Keep Missing"

The plates get cleared and the silence lands like a brick. You can feel her waiting. Your brain offers up your commute, your job, the weather — topics that have ended more second dates than bad breath.

Here's what most guys never learn: women hand out free conversational material all night long. Tiny clues about what they actually want to discuss. Catch them and you never run out of things to say — because she's telling you what to say next.

Rule 4 of the "22 Rules" trains your ear to catch every single one.

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Currency of Life

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I know a girl with a golden touch...
She's got enough, she's got too much.
But I know you wouldn't mind...
You can have it all if you want it,
You can have it all if it matters so much...


Effort

Effort is the currency of life.

What if I told you you could have it all?

All of what? Heh heh, well, that's for you to decide my friend, that's what makes life fun! It's open ended!

Effort is the currency of life. Effort goes in, results come out. That is by no means the be all and end all of the matter, but it puts us in a good starting position. You stand on a board of possibilities, a horizon of endless paths. Effort is your fire.

Where ever you start in life, with effort, and the time and devotion that go with it, you can experience more.

This is where we start. A point of minute size, but with infinite possibility in a world of endless reach. The more effort, the bigger we get. The more fun we have. The more we experience.

I'm avoiding the word progress here. Progress starts wars, enables genocide, and causes stress. Progress is this idea that success means accomplishing something. Get rich, get famous, get a good job, a good looking wife, a great body. Call me cold, but money is oh so useful when you're dead! Why not skip out what people seem to think is the propper thing to do and go straight for the fun, the experience. Did you know "the model American puts in 1,600 hours to get 7,500 miles" in his car? That's 5 miles an hour. ****, he could walk that far in that long! This is a bit of a contrived example, but it shows that what people think saves us time, makes us progress...it's a lot of effort in the wrong direction.

Direction

Effort isn't a universal good. You can put a herculean effort into something, and get nowhere. You can put in a tiny bit of effort and wipe out the whole planet.

But first, let's concider body building. It's nice to have a good body. But wait, why is it nice?

To be attractive to other people!
Wrong. Don't give a **** what other people think, so this is clearly wrong. Why get a good body? It furthers your experience of life! Life, living life IS effort. The two are two sides of the same coin. To live, not exist, you must strive to experience to world. You should act like a man possessed.

Possessed about what???
Good point. For her we come back to the start of this part- with the example of the odd possessive wife beater AFC freak bloke. Sure, these sorrey excuses for men seem pretty possessed at times. Think is, they are possessed without the correct direction. So much effort into making someone else's life misserable. Nothing is experienced except pain and sadness. This is progress, effort in, results out.

To really enjoy life, act like a man possessed, but with the direction of a genius. The application and direction of effort is more important than the actual effort you put in.

Maximising Effort

So, put in the effort to do what you want.
Put it in with direction.
Put it in with kinowledge.

You must go for these things as if the world depended on it. This is because it, infact, does.

Your application of effort is your life. When you sit there and decide to have another packet of crisps rather than get out there and have some fun because, "you can't be bothered", you reject your gift of effort. That packet of crisps may as well be your life. Exercise your application of effort. It's all you really have.

Of course, effort has to come from somewhere. This isn't a post about how to live your life, but to try and get some of you guys to take better care of your ****ing bodies! The smokers and stoners, I'm talking to you *******s! Get some more sleep, eat properly, and get fit! Nothing makes you feel better, abole to live more, than having effort to spend on what you want.

Bleugh, had this post on my chest for weeks- away evil idea demons!!!!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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paraguayandj

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Great post. You got really good points on it.:D
 
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