"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Curiosity on my mind!

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Right so I've broken up with my ex about a month back,
I'm more or less over her with the help of this forum and the dj bible. But I have a few questions because of my curiosity.

First one is a couple of days ago two of her flat Mates at university followed me on Instagram, why? What would they gain from this?

Second one is yesterday I was talking to a mutual friend that she used to be close with yesterday and organised a day for her and me to meet up. After the twitter convo I texted the friend and she said that my ex tweeted "wow just wow" I don't really care about what she said but why did she tweet anything at all? It's over between me and her so why is she even bothered at all?

Any positive input would be much appreciated to lay my curiosity to rest.
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Social Media is for attention wh0res. If I was you I'd cut it out unless you were making money from it. It's just a distraction.
 

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If you are still asking 'why' then you are not over her.
 

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:-) said:
If you are still asking 'why' then you are not over her.
As I said in my post "more or less" I still think of the good times now and then but only the feelings of those good times that I had not the feelings of her.

The reason I ask why is not because I want drop everything and go running back to her pathetic life. I'm asking because I want to know if things have been finish and buried then why do these things cause and effect for her and why does she do it?

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I think your ex's flat mates followed you on instagram because your ex asked them to and to keep her updated on you. She's not over you either and is playing a head game with you. Likely she didn't want to breakup but figured she would use the "deep emotion" strategy to see if you would drop your frame and come crawling back to her to gain the upperhand in the relationship.

Stay on course man... The whole breakup is a **** test from her and now she's got minions watching you to see if you jump to a new girl right away so she can say "ah HA you didn't care for me since you switched to a new girl so fast and likely had her under your wing all along" to paint herself as the "good guy".

That's my take anyhow.

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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Epimanes said:
I think your ex's flat mates followed you on instagram because your ex asked them to and to keep her updated on you. She's not over you either and is playing a head game with you. Likely she didn't want to breakup but figured she would use the "deep emotion" strategy to see if you would drop your frame and come crawling back to her to gain the upperhand in the relationship.

Stay on course man... The whole breakup is a **** test from her and now she's got minions watching you to see if you jump to a new girl right away so she can say "ah HA you didn't care for me since you switched to a new girl so fast and likely had her under your wing all along" to paint herself as the "good guy".

That's my take anyhow.

Epi
Sorry for the illiterate English, stupid autocorrect. She has done things to gain the upper Hand in the past.
Tbh I think she has a few minions keeping an eye on me atm, as the twitter convo proved.
Also all of her other friends u followed me on Instagram except for one.
This girl needs to learn that it is fully over and to stop stalking me.

Thank you for your responses.

Epi, thank you for your detailed answers and explanations it is very appreciated.

If anyone else wants to contribute please do

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