"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Cure's 6 month strength building plan. Advice and comments sought.

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last week -

front squat

warm ups to 3x5 70kg.

Disappointing, but not unexpected.

row-

3x5 70kg, but not a PR just yet as form was off slightly on latter reps. The ache next day confirmed I'm using my middle back to much.

Pull ups- 3x5
felt very strong, I reckon I can start going for 5.5/6

Also did some glute barbell thrusts.



Yesterday-

500m row,

Bench
10xbar
5x40
2x60

3x5 70kg PR. really really happy with this. the last rep on each set was a grinder, my legs were shaking after the last set!


tried some OH pressing- it wasnt happening.

3x6 dips, Im getting stronger at these.

Tripcep cable push downs. 3x10 with about 21kg.

Ab work to finnish.

Really happy with this workout.

PWO weight 74.5kg, moving in the right direction again which I expected.

Ive started supplementing with creatine, experimentally, it was only £12 so if it doesnt make much difference, its not a big loss.

I need to start my other supps up again.

Diet is going pretty good, not consistent enough but Im getting the calories and protien in.

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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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yesterday-

squats- warmups,

2x110kg

5x110kg but really ugly reps, not even to parallel after the first couple.

1x115kg

10x60kg


pull ups

6
6
5

Happy with these.

hamstring machine- 3x10 68kg

glute barbell thrusts 3x10 45kg

chin ups 3x5


Nice total body ache today.

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Having had a think about my fitness goals, Ive decided to drastically cut back on weight training for a period, to focus instead on body weight training.

For legs, I will be training for jumping/free running style moves.

For upper body, having read this article here-

http://www.dragondoor.com/articler/mode3/229/

Im going to focus on the planche and front lever progressions.

thanks to almost a year of weight training, I can hold the initial progressions, the frog stand and tuck front lever, for periods of up to 10 seconds. So I'm at the starting point.

My goal for now is to be able to do straddle planche push ups and straddle front lever pull ups.

I will mix this training with other body weight stuff, rows, chins, dips, close grip push ups etc etc, training probably every day for the isometric stuff and two-three times per week for the dynamic stuff.

Will update here when I hit mile stones.

Body weight around the 75kg mark, but this will likely fall slightly again.

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wow its been a month.

My diet has been good, not perfect, but good, and Im still exercising regularly.

Ive started a new job which is 55 hours or more a week, in a bar. This is getting me lots of money but playing havoc with my H+F regime as im burning loads of calories walking around for 12 hours at a time most days.
Ive upped my calorie intake, but Ive lost a couple of kilos still, I need to ensure I keep my calorie intake even higher.

The body weight training is going well.

Ive also Deadlifted a couple of times, and can still handle my previous max, which is good. My bench I tried yesterday and it had dropped 10kg but I wasnt overly supprised.

at the moment my goals are -

Maintain muscle mass
build upper body strenght through static holds and body weight work
improve flexibility and balance
start training my martial arts again.
start cycling properly for fitness.

I go to the gym or do some kind of exercise most days of the week, Im looking leaner than ever which is one benefit of the new job I suppose.

current body weight is 73kg approx.

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thanks Espi! I figure consistency over time is better than going all out for a few months and then forgetting about it like I used to!

Ive set up a 3x a week training plan with a friend of mine whos in similar condition, mostly body weight training, stretching, gymnastics/parkour stuff.

I went for a bike ride the other day,
2.7 miles in 10 minutes 10 seconds, one mile in 3 minutes 25 seconds.

Im aiming to do 3 miles in 10 minutes.

Also in the gym yesterday, I benched 70kg for 2, and 73kg for 1 (plus an assisted rep). Which is awesome because Ive not benched body weight before now! The aim is to keep the weight high and go for more reps till I can get around 75kg with 3x5, hopefully my body weight will slowly creep back up.

Im eating pleanty, so not losing weight.

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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exercise program still giong well despite mad hours at work.

Currently not doing anything int he gym, but working on push ups of various kinds, pull ups, chin ups, static holds, grip work.
My current goal is to be able to hold a "flag" for a few seconds by the end of the month, somthing I think is achievable.

Im also doing a lot of parkour training, learning the basic vaults, which is going well, the day after each session my lower/middle back, glutes, and most of my legs ache like hell, so Im definatly giving my self a decent workout! Especially Ive noticed my arms growing in a way they hadnt before, which is awesome.

body weight static at around 72.5 and Im in no hurry to increase it at the moment.

I do need to fit in some deadlifts, rows, bench press etc, to ensure I am maintaining my strenght from the weight lifting i was doing.

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My job has had a serious impact on my health and fitness recently.

Physically Im still fit and strong, and leaner than ever thanks to the very active job I have. BUT, I got to the gym yesterday for the first time in 2 weeks, my body weight is still dropping, and all my lifts are down significantly.

I got 60kg bench for 3x5 yesturday, down from 70kg.
Im going to try and increase it back up to 70kg over the next few weeks, same with my squat and deadlift, I need to do some work on those to get back in the groove.

Diet is a nightmare, I dont eat enough, work doesnt give me enough time to eat and its not consistent, I will likly only be able to maintain my weight, increasing it just isnt going to happen with my current job and metabolism!

Not a lot of update, but I need to keep this going to keep myself motivated.

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