Crying on my birthday?!

[DJx420]

Okay, now right off the bat I know a lot of you are going to say I'm over-analyzing this.

And I know that I am, however I"m on my way to DJism and I feel as if finding out what certain situations really mean it will help my progress.

For those of you who've read my posts, theres a bunch of them on that girl J.

Well, last night at 12 was my birthday. I texted J earlier for her and her friends to come by and pre-game with us before the bar (were good friends with all of them). She agrees saying she wouldn't miss my bday for the world yada yada yada. So 12 rolls around, no J. I mean thats fine for me because birthdays, in my opnion, or overrated anyways. They end up showing up at like 1215. They all said happy bday, including J. They told me they were at some frat house to drink before hand. They started to drink and next thing I know EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THEM is in my bedroom...so I thought they were leaving me a present or something, so I just continued to drink with my boys. They come out 15 minutes later and J looked like she had been crying. So I went over and asked her what was wrong...she wouldn't tell me. Then they do it again, she cried again. On the way to the bar, her and her friend walk away again. The wierdest part about the whole thing was that the WHOLE time she was being so standoffish. Then we got to the bar and we didn't say a word...

My initial reaction was that it was over a boy that either screwed her over because she went to that frat house and then to my place in tears. But now since I've had time to look into the situation I feel as if it could be a billion different things. But all but my initial reaction come back to my main point, which is that if she was crying BEFORE she went out, then why would she had even gone out? Why wouldn't she stay in?

Thanks in advance fellas.

 

[Ronnie Poleman]

Women.

They come out 15 minutes later and J looked like she had been crying. So I went over and asked her what was wrong...she wouldn't tell me. Then they do it again, she cried again. On the way to the bar, her and her friend walk away again. The wierdest part about the whole thing was that the WHOLE time she was being so standoffish. Then we got to the bar and we didn't say a word...

Women and their mysterious ways. I can see why someone could think it's your fault J's upset because she doesn't talk to you when you get to the bar, but if you can't see any possible reason why she would be upset with you, then your initial conclusions should be right.

About the whole "if she was upset why did she come out?" thing, don't worry about it. When you asked her what was wrong, J did the whole "nah, it's nothing" drill, but what she's really meaning is "Something's wrong and I'm upset, and I want you to show that you care about me".

You showed concern in asking what's wrong, but it's good that you didn't press on with it, otherwise you would have become the emotional tampon. I think you did the most you could have done without becoming the tampon. Give her space for a day or two so that she gets over what's upsetting her, then call her again, ask her if she's feeling better, if yes, then move on to something else, like asking her to lunch or whatever, and say nothing about the incident on your birthday.

 

[guywhoneedshelp]

These chicks are dysfunctional. It's one thing if they cry when they are home alone watching a chick flick or something but unless she's an emotional drunk and actually was drunk, (have some funny videos of those chicks) this is just baggage.

Accept the fact that this is the way your friend J is and thank yourself that she is just a friend and you're not the poor AFC who has to deal with this type of baggage every day.

 

[guywhoneedshelp]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9KtR7EGtXvE hahaha

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0VIZxBGojcM

I still remember this day, in these 2 15 second clips I recorded with my cell phone. This is what happens when an emotional drunk drinks. Someone said "Borat" and that was the movie her ex saw with another woman, cheating on her.

 

[DJDamage]

You are over-analyzing this sh1t.

Chicks cry all the time for various pointless reasons.

This girl thinks she is the centre of attention and her world is the only thing that matters (not your birthday), so it had nothing to do with you but everything to do with her's.

I would be actually pissed off that this chick is trying to ruin my birthday by crying and dragging everybody down with her. This was supposed to be your special day, but now that she is crying all the attention went to her! she should have gone home if she wasn't having a good time and couldn't be even nice to you.

I would have gone Tom Hanks on her ass (replace the word "baseball" with "ON MY BIRTHDAY!")

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rKr8QzjixJ4

 

[GaryUranga]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9KtR7EGtXvE hahaha

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0VIZxBGojcM

I still remember this day, in these 2 15 second clips I recorded with my cell phone. This is what happens when an emotional drunk drinks. Someone said "Borat" and that was the movie her ex saw with another woman, cheating on her.

lmao

also, its none of your business what she was crying about

 

[GaryUranga]

I would have gone Tom Hanks on her ass (replace the word "baseball" with "ON MY BIRTHDAY!")

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rKr8QzjixJ4

this is also hilarious

 

[DJx420]

UPDATE

Hey guys, thanks for the responses...Got a little update on the situation with J.

SHe texted me at like 9 last night asking how my day was going and blha blah. Ended up talking about what our plans were for the night..Anyways, eventually we met up at the bar. She was ALL over me. I couldn't even get away if I wanted.

I asked her again what was wrong with her the night before and she blew it off (only one of my boys heard the story so I know).

Her crying BEFORE the bar, I have no idea wtf that was about. However at the bar, she made out with some guy and his gf was sitting right there. Shes in a sorority and now that whole house HATES J. So that explaines that...

So anyways last night, she ends up coming back to my place...We made out for literally 2 seconds and then she was like omg i'm gonig to puke yada yada yada...so she puked we went to sleep. that was about it.

So I guess only time will tell what will happen between us 2, as for now, i'm working on some other plates because i need numerous options.

 

[DonJuan11]

But all but my initial reaction come back to my main point, which is that if she was crying BEFORE she went out, then why would she had even gone out? Why wouldn't she stay in?

Thanks in advance fellas.

Needs emotional support from her friends. If you are emotional or upset about something, you need guidance and help from others, it helps you get through it.

Much better than sitting at home watching friends.

 

[decades]

quit being so worried about her CRYING. So what. She is crying. Who cares. Quit being the nice guy who comes to her aid whenever she sheds a tear. You think the Jerk over there in the corner she LUSTS after is wondering why she is crying? Dont' be the wimpy simpy nice guy. Be strong and realize she is creating drama to make everybody wonder what is up with her including you. You are young and learning and my advice goes against all the conditioning you have ever had from society and your parents. let her cry. Make her tell you by ignoring it. Don't fall into her DRAMA trap. It's tears. It's not like she doesn't know where her next meal is coming from like many many women in this world.