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[Smith122]

I have a crush at work, I told her when we was in same department, I liked her...we also use to flirt verbally

After that things went downhill, eventually when from friends advice I sent her one too many text she said you need to stop texting and coming to my department.

Which I stopped doing.

Before that she would sometimes ignore sometimes say hi

Anyway I was moving on and all of a sudden her department moved behind mine.

So now instead of being lucky to see her once a week I see her everyday numerous times and it’s killing me, cos she doesn’t even acknowledge me, she sometimes stares that’s it.

I wish I never told her I liked her, then at least she would be normal

How can things be normal so she says hi and we talk now and again that’s it

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

What sort of phaggotry is this?

She doesn't want your pathetic beta genetics. You were needy. You pursued at work. Lazy as ****kkk. She offers no value but wants to talk?

Grow a pair. Actually approach women. Hit the gym. Prioritise excellence not a **** scsb jump off. View her as a asexual vampire. ***** is dead to you. Act accordingly.

 

[Smith122]

What’s wrong with being amicable

I am moving on, but I could still say hi now and again..wish merry Christmas that’s it nothing more.

I use to get her stuff at work when she asked occasionally, just wen free food came etc

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

No. She doesn't deserve a sec of your time.

Its time you Could be getting more baaaaae. But this is an accurate portrayal of your lack of game.

Time is the most precious asset. Its all ROI. I'll approach and she will swallow my proteins or i next.

Blow me or blow me out.

You can't be half a gangster. - jlaix

I am a mercenary. Step your game up kuz or step aside.

 

[Smith122]

I’m still pursuing other girls,
And I’m not giving her a second chance It was my fault for telling her I liked her, she must have felt awkward and also, telling other people I liked her and her finding out.

She’s thinking now if she does anything, I will try and purse her which is not the car so she’s left it and cos she feels awkward and lost my trust.

What about all the history we had, text messages the chats etc

 

[Poonstra]

So now instead of being lucky to see her once a week I see her everyday numerous times and it’s killing me, cos she doesn’t even acknowledge me, she sometimes stares that’s it.

Women can be cold, from what you're describing it looks like she despises you.

How can things be normal so she says hi and we talk now and again that’s it

The harder you try to make things normal, the more you're chasing, stop that, start ignoring.

I am moving on

Are you? Cos you're posting about her on an internet forum.

I use to get her stuff at work when she asked occasionally, just wen free food came etc

Don't ever do this again for any woman. There's nothing wrong with their own hands and feet, they can get their own stuff.

I’m still pursuing other girls,

Good, get a move on.

What about all the history we had, text messages the chats etc

At best it'll be used against you when she files for a restraining order.

 

[soulforge]

My number one rule.

If I try to get with a chick at work, and she freindzones me or displays low interest..

I simply move the fuk on, and deprive her of any attention from me.

 

[Alvafe]

What’s wrong with being amicable

I am moving on, but I could still say hi now and again..wish merry Christmas that’s it nothing more.

I use to get her stuff at work when she asked occasionally, just wen free food came etc

amicable is when you say hi, when you are talking with someone else, all else ignore her existance, hell sometimes you shouldn't even answer her saying hi to you, she is dead, and you don't see dead people, you make right by also deleting her number, before you cave

 

[Black Widow Void]

I see that you are new here. Welcome aboard.

We've all done this (even those that refuse to openly admit it).

There's no immediate fix to this, but keep cool about things and I assure you that it'll eventually work itself out.
Actually, her running into you more often is good. The more she sees you being indifferent.. the more she will forget the previous awkwardness.

Don't beat yourself up over this. Hell, you had the guts to take a chance (a lot more than I can say for some members here). Life is about making mistakes and learning from them. No one here bats 100%. The good from all this is that you will learn from the previous encounter and improve.

Expect future mistakes. If you don't make mistakes, you aren't putting yourself out there. The key is to learn from each mistake and become a 'newer and improved' version of yourself.

 

[Smith122]

Poonstra - I have now started to ignore her it kills me, shall I not even look at her.

But I thought if I still say hi, she may think wow I’ve been so horrible and he’s still cool and calm lemme talk to him.

So history don’t mean jack.
And why may she despise me?, she use to be cool and fun around me right at start.

ALVAFE - I’m never gona approach her again, she doesn’t even say hi anymore, only I do which kills.
No need to delete I won’t cave, Delete her insta and snap too.

Me ignoring her she couldn’t care less she’s probaly happy, she may think why he ignoring me, hope she does

Black widow void - thnaks, my mistakes is because of other people advice..like tel her you like her...text her again askin why etc.
We even have same mates and we ignore each other now
You say she forgett previous awkwardness, it’s getting more awkard.

Yes I did take a chnace tell her I like her wasn’t easy at all, but I did it because I thought that’s only way to get her

What if we in lift together which will happen we have to use same one?

Thanks for all the advice so for

I’m gona see her everyday for god know how many years and I still have strong feeling for her how will things improve in what way.

 

[Alvafe]

Poonstra - I have now started to ignore her it kills me, shall I not even look at her.

But I thought if I still say hi, she may think wow I’ve been so horrible and he’s still cool and calm lemme talk to him.

So history don’t mean jack.
And why may she despise me?, she use to be cool and fun around me right at start.

ALVAFE - I’m never gona approach her again, she doesn’t even say hi anymore, only I do which kills.
No need to delete I won’t cave, Delete her insta and snap too.

Me ignoring her she couldn’t care less she’s probaly happy, she may think why he ignoring me, hope she does

Black widow void - thnaks, my mistakes is because of other people advice..like tel her you like her...text her again askin why etc.
We even have same mates and we ignore each other now
You say she forgett previous awkwardness, it’s getting more awkard.

Yes I did take a chnace tell her I like her wasn’t easy at all, but I did it because I thought that’s only way to get her

What if we in lift together which will happen we have to use same one?

Thanks for all the advice so for

I’m gona see her everyday for god know how many years and I still have strong feeling for her how will things improve in what way.

yes you will, best of all is IF she send a fishing text you won't know the number so you will ask who it was, tis a win/win for you, delte her number.

also what should kill is that feeling, feeling like that will hurt you too much in the long way, plus that "hurting" is called lack of options, happens when you don't ahve much going on, time to change that

 

[Poonstra]

it kills me

I know it does, but chasing her isn't gonna bring you anything either. If you have any hope of her respecting you, you gonna need to be hard, on yourself. Do what ever it takes.

And why may she despise me?

Not you perse. She despises weakness. You are displaying weakness.

she use to be cool and fun around me right at start.

You f*cked up somewhere. I'm gonna go and guess things went downhill after you became needy.

No need to delete I won’t cave

Listen to @Alvafe he's giving solid advise in the comment above this one.

Me ignoring her she couldn’t care less she’s probaly happy, she may think why he ignoring me, hope she does

It's not about her. It's about you, and you regaining some dignity and self worth. Knowing you are better than this.

Yes I did take a chnace tell her I like her wasn’t easy at all, but I did it because I thought that’s only way to get her

It took some serious courage to do this, but if you feel you need to resort to something like this it's probably to late. Trust me, I made the same mistake you did. Next time you like a girl, you show her by asking her on a date, and if the date goes well, you show her by kissing her.

What if we in lift together which will happen we have to use same one?

Pretend she's not there. Only you and an empty elevator.


Now, to cheer you up, take a look at my post history and see some of the dumb sh!t I did, it'll give you a good chuckle. Some of it not so long ago. If you are willing to learn, you can grow and with that, you can mold yourself into something that you can't even imagine right now.

 

[gettinit]

I recommend that you start binge reading on here. Start with the Bible. It will give you an entirely new perspective on things.

You have no idea what is going through this girls head, but it sounds like she was fine being friendly, but doesn't have any romantic interest.
It sucks, but that just how it goes sometimes and you will find quite a few threads on here related to dating work colleagues, most recommending against it. Your situation is just another example that backs that up.
As hard as it may seem, just pretend she isn't there, even in the "lift". Let it be awkward. If she won't say Hi, why should you take the initiative to do so? If you NEED to interact for work, keep it short and to the point, no "how are you" chit chat.

 

[Smith122]

If she says hi to me ignore her too?

I think she just uses me for attention, when and if needed if not she just throws me away... I know this is going to sound sad but I like it when she asks me for small favours.

How does me only saying hi, and odd thing here there in passing devalue me to her?, I stopped texting and approaching.me ignoring her nothing will change unless I become some kind of superman.
Where’s say hi now again, and off convo, would really be that awful?

She was fine being friendly, now she’s not even fine with that.
Getinit - and if she does say hi?

Poonstra - what’s name of threads you started about your mistakes.

It must have gona downhill, cos I told her I liked her, she saw me at work and could see I had no game anyway,

I’m even more gutted cos it was even my own mistakes a lot from taking other people’s advice and I still have feeling for her.

 

[Poonstra]

If she says hi to me ignore her too?

Just give her a short "hi", immediately move on.

I think she just uses me for attention, when and if needed if not she just throws me away...

The fact that you realize this tell you enough. You are nothing but a toy.

I know this is going to sound sad but I like it when she asks me for small favours.

The fact that you realize this tell you enough. Stop doing this.

How does me only saying hi, and odd thing here there in passing devalue me to her?

It's about validating her. She should be validating you.

unless I become some kind of superman.

You should become a superman. It'll take years, and hard work, be the best you that you can be, and chicks will be waiting in line. Don't do it for her tho, do it for you.

Where’s say hi now again, and off convo, would really be that awful?

Stop making excuses to keep her in your world. Like I told, be hard on yourself, do whatever it takes.

She was fine being friendly, now she’s not even fine with that.

There you go, she doesn't want the convo.

Poonstra

Next time put an @ in front for our names, we'll get an alert if you mention us.

Poonstra - what’s name of threads you started about your mistakes.

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I had no game anyway,

What is game? That question in and of it's own will keep may people on this board riled up.

from taking other people’s advice

Be extremely careful with whoms advise you take. The people that really care about you can be counted on one hand.
As I told you above, be the best you that you can be, and you'll take your own advise.

 

[Smith122]

From what I seen and heard, she’s liked lots of guys other then me at work...will that make anything easier...

It’s game over forever or if I change could anything ever happen or no one nos or no

 

[Smith122]

@gettinit
@Black Widow Void


See above

 

[Smith122]

I was thinking as a last thing thing...just say to her you ignore me loads now in a joking way...that’s it

 

[Poonstra]

I was thinking as a last thing thing...just say to her you ignore me loads now in a joking way...that’s it

No

 

[Smith122]

No

I won’t by why not