Critique this approach.

[apocalypse later]

I was thinking this HB8 was totally into me, but when I asked for her number...well, read on. This was at Marshall's, a discount clothing store, and she was an employee.

Me: Hey, what do you think of these shoes?
HB8: I like them.
Me: Well, do I take your opinion from your facial expression or from what you said? They're completely different.
HB8: *laughs* They're Diesels, right?
Me: "Yeah. You like a guy that's into Eurotrash, right? Haha, just joking. I just avoid buying Diesel jeans because the cuts are so tight.
HB8: Yeah. *laughs*
Me: Well, I guess I'll have to think about these shoes for awhile. I'm not sure how much I trust you. You have this look that kind of says "I like getting guys into Eurotrash so every girl around laughs at him." Thanks for the opinion.
HB8: *laughing hard at this point* Alright, come back and tell me what you decide.

At this point, I walk around for awhile, thinking about what the girl was giving me for IOI's. Eye contact, smiles, etc. I was thinking about how well I was doing, and how confidently I said everything, but here's where I think I make my mistake. I'm really into fashion, but sometimes I think I talk about it too much and it turns girls off. But no, I know I don't give off a gay persona.

Me: I don't know about these shoes. They have a lot of white on them, and some of my raw denim washes off on it.
HB8: Raw denim? Are you one of those guys that spends hundreds on jeans?
Me: Maybe.
HB8: *gives me weird look* Ok..
Me: *pause* Ok, so if I decide I hate these shoes can I at least call you and complain?
Her: Probably not.
Me: Damn, I guess I'll just have to call your store headquarters and tell your manager that Jamie (her name) was flirting with me way too much.
Her: *laughs* You do that.

Damn, I thought I had her. I think when I started talking about my jeans I messed it up. I know this isn't very detailed, anyone know where I might have slipped up?

 

[Infraction]

You didn't change the topic, and you didn't ask for a #.

 

[DJF or John Again]

Yeah, you ready?

Way too much analyzing, NO having fun, NO sexuality, NO life.

You get girls like you make sales. You make sales by FIRST loving what you do and at the same time offering value to the client.

This translated into the dating arena, is you loving to meet women and make women nvt (loving what you do) and being sexual (offering her value that she can see).

This is simply done by focusing on fun first, being sexual second, and just remaining consistent as the third thing.

The problem is this though.....

I think that a lot of guys get into trouble because they confuse the order.

They focus on relationships first. Guys shouldn't focus on relationships at all, that's a woman's job to focus on that...but anyway, the guys focus on:

"What is she thinking?"

"Why didn't she call me back?"

"Why is she acting like this or that?"

"Is she interested?"

"Why did she neg-hit me?"

These are questions that really you shouldn't focus on honestly lol, but if they would be asked they should be asked when you are at the relationship level. But really, they shouldn't be focused on at all....I mean it's really none of your damn business why she moves or looks the way she does. Maybe she's insecure about herself? Maybe she's tired? Who cares? Just focus on having fun and being sexual....that's really all your job responsibility is, if you do your job you'll be paid, period.

So usually guys confuse the order, and then it turns to alot of analyzing, and after days and hours of thinking too hard, actually the guy ends up doing nothing lol. Imagine staying up all night studying for a test to not show up in class the next day and take it lol.

So just have fun, be sexual, and enjoy life, keep your focus on those 3 things...and women, money, and great health will flow to you.

- John

 

[DJF or John Again]

And another thing, there is no 100% success ratio.

But the thing is, I've had girls not open up to me sexually on Monday, but I met up with them on Wednesday and they opened up sexually.

All you do is just love what you do and do it well.

Love meeting women and making women have a great nvt, then just love being a sexual human being.

Do that, and you will find yourself not too long with too many girls to focus on to not really notice the ones that aren't opening up to you sexually.

Bottom Line: You are already sexy dude. We all are. Just because a girl doesn't start screaming like they do at rock concerts doesn't mean she's not thinking we aren't sexy.

Have fun, love what you do, and be sexual......you will be fine. It's just that simple. It's that way in business and it's that way in dating.