....EFFORT said:Meal 1-4eggs, 1 table spoon Olive Oil, 5 (1000mg fish oil pills)
Meal 2-5oz of chicken, fish or beef, 1table spoon Olive Oil, 5 Fish Oil, 1/2 cup Broccoli or salad (no carb dressing)
Meal 3-same as 2
Meal 4- same as 2
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
....EFFORT said:Meal 1-4eggs, 1 table spoon Olive Oil, 5 (1000mg fish oil pills)
Meal 2-5oz of chicken, fish or beef, 1table spoon Olive Oil, 5 Fish Oil, 1/2 cup Broccoli or salad (no carb dressing)
Meal 3-same as 2
Meal 4- same as 2
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
battle_sheep said:Did you forget my ankle is broken? I can't just hop on a bike and ride my ass off for 30 minutes, sorry
Is this all one day?Quiksilver said:chest
incline bench
flat bench
dips
back
deadlift
bb rows
db rows
pull ups
chin ups
shoulders
overhead press
military press
.
How long till your ankle is usable again?
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
How much weight have you lost since starting it?battle_sheep said:Is this all one day?
How many times a week?
Oh and effort how is the diet going to look now?
I ended up getting my weight wrong when I first posted, I had a stomach bug and went to the hospital for some medicine and the weight in was 337lb, so sorry I cant tell you how much I lostEFFORT said:How much weight have you lost since starting it?
I can do all the above except the deadlifts.EFFORT said:Use the 337 as a base now and follow the same diet for the next month. Start a journal here to keep track of everything. How you feel, energy levels, how well your following the diet, etc.
In terms of working out. What can you do? Give more info on what it is you can do that doesn't cause your ankle pain. Weights and Cardio.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Squats too, im too unstable, the bottom of the cast is round and there will be a difference in height on each foot, i hate to shoot everything down but I cant risk making my injury worseEFFORT said:http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showthread.php?t=712752 follow this, just don't do the deadlifts. Do 35min on the elliptical on all non lifting days.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.