"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Critique my date

zen511

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Anyways, I was setup on a semi-blind date last night, something I usually don't do but I was pleasantly suprised. Both in the looks and personality department. We seemed to have hit it off over dinner, conversation was so good, we missed the show we wanted to attend just becuase we lost track of time. So that itself is a good thing at least imo.

Well it kinda gets a little murky right now, she asked me if I smoked weed and I told her I did, she is a smoker herself for medicinal reasons (seemed legit), She asked if I wanted to smoke, so I said why not, but warned her that I sometimes become quite and clam up and am not my usual charming self, when I am stoned, she said not to worry about it. Oh one tidbit to throw in, in the middle of the car ride between venues she excused herself and took a call from her friend, where she said she was on a great date and gave me a wink and told her friend she would have to tell her about it later. Anyways so we smoked and my luck I became quiet and slightly paranoid but nothing too bad. I apologized twice to her for this and she said its fine, and that the date is going fine, that she wouldnt be there bc she is very short with people and if she would have left right after dinner. Anyways I hope it didn't make me seem like a ***** for apologizing. At the end it seemed like she was slightly rushed to leave, it was late but it was late and she does work early so I am unsure of the vibe. I guess it went from a great date to a ok one, I am pretty sure I will get a second date at the least. I did not go for a kiss since it was the first first time meeting, just gave her a peck on the cheek to say goodbye. I guess next date that is the priority, don't want to waste too much time. Hopefully you guys can give me some decent advice on how to play it, since I think I kinda took a step back bc I decided to get stoned with her instead of sticking to my strenghts.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Randallpink83

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If you knew that crap was going to take you away from your "charming self" then you know as well as the thousand people can tell you that you should have sticked to your wits.

what medicinal reason does she have anyway? :)
 

zen511

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enzyme defficency, so she doesn't hold food well. Do you suggest I give it a few days, when i do call should I say listen I wasn't myself or do I just ignore it totally....
 
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