"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Critique my date

zen511

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Anyways, I was setup on a semi-blind date last night, something I usually don't do but I was pleasantly suprised. Both in the looks and personality department. We seemed to have hit it off over dinner, conversation was so good, we missed the show we wanted to attend just becuase we lost track of time. So that itself is a good thing at least imo.

Well it kinda gets a little murky right now, she asked me if I smoked weed and I told her I did, she is a smoker herself for medicinal reasons (seemed legit), She asked if I wanted to smoke, so I said why not, but warned her that I sometimes become quite and clam up and am not my usual charming self, when I am stoned, she said not to worry about it. Oh one tidbit to throw in, in the middle of the car ride between venues she excused herself and took a call from her friend, where she said she was on a great date and gave me a wink and told her friend she would have to tell her about it later. Anyways so we smoked and my luck I became quiet and slightly paranoid but nothing too bad. I apologized twice to her for this and she said its fine, and that the date is going fine, that she wouldnt be there bc she is very short with people and if she would have left right after dinner. Anyways I hope it didn't make me seem like a ***** for apologizing. At the end it seemed like she was slightly rushed to leave, it was late but it was late and she does work early so I am unsure of the vibe. I guess it went from a great date to a ok one, I am pretty sure I will get a second date at the least. I did not go for a kiss since it was the first first time meeting, just gave her a peck on the cheek to say goodbye. I guess next date that is the priority, don't want to waste too much time. Hopefully you guys can give me some decent advice on how to play it, since I think I kinda took a step back bc I decided to get stoned with her instead of sticking to my strenghts.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Randallpink83

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If you knew that crap was going to take you away from your "charming self" then you know as well as the thousand people can tell you that you should have sticked to your wits.

what medicinal reason does she have anyway? :)
 

zen511

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enzyme defficency, so she doesn't hold food well. Do you suggest I give it a few days, when i do call should I say listen I wasn't myself or do I just ignore it totally....
 
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