Crippling loneliness

[penkitten]

a very long time ago, I learned that the very moment that I realized I was in a rut and felt lonely or depressed... that if I got off my a$$ and just started cleaning, it would chase a lonely moment away and my house would be clean. going thru the mechanics of doing physical labor mellowed my emotions out.
if I was angry, I would scrub the tub and the toilet. get on my knees and scrub the floor the old fashioned way.

now maybe not all of you are into housework , but you can find other things to do. go chop someone some firewood. mow the lawn. whatever gets you to that place that you mellow.

hobbies are great, but I can not find enjoyment when I am sad out of that. I have to work it out of me. and after I work it all out, I can enjoy life to it's fullest and my hobbies are pleasurable once more.

 

[Atom Smasher]

a very long time ago, I learned that the very moment that I realized I was in a rut and felt lonely or depressed... that if I got off my a$$ and just started cleaning, it would chase a lonely moment away and my house would be clean. going thru the mechanics of doing physical labor mellowed my emotions out.
if I was angry, I would scrub the tub and the toilet. get on my knees and scrub the floor the old fashioned way.

now maybe not all of you are into housework , but you can find other things to do. go chop someone some firewood. mow the lawn. whatever gets you to that place that you mellow.

hobbies are great, but I can not find enjoyment when I am sad out of that. I have to work it out of me. and after I work it all out, I can enjoy life to it's fullest and my hobbies are pleasurable once more.

Check your inbox. I'm sending you my home address.

Next time you feel depressed, you may feel free to come on over for some cleaning therapy.

 

[theprof]

1. Change your diet - eliminate sugar and eat less starches. Try to eat chicken, fist, fresh vegetables and fruits.

2. Take a good multi-vitamin, B-complex, Omega3 supplement

3. Take baby steps toward achieving a goal, even if it's just cleaning your room

4. Help other people

 

[Rubirosa]

a very long time ago, I learned that the very moment that I realized I was in a rut and felt lonely or depressed... that if I got off my a$$ and just started cleaning, it would chase a lonely moment away and my house would be clean. going thru the mechanics of doing physical labor mellowed my emotions out.
if I was angry, I would scrub the tub and the toilet. get on my knees and scrub the floor the old fashioned way.

Very good advice. It's nice to know that someone else has discovered this constructive therapy. Worse case scenario: You still might not feel great afterwards, but your place will look great. It's been scientifically proven that enviornment shapes mood, so cleaning is always a step in the right direction. If I need inspiration, I youtube episodes of that Brittish TV series "How clean is your house ?"

 

[BMX]

"Friends may come and go, but 200 pounds will always be 200 pounds"--Henry Rollins

 

[penkitten]

I actually have a friend who is bipolar manic depressive and right now she is having major loneliness issues and marriage problems bc of her disorder. she is so sad that she doesn't want to get up and do anything, only lay there. she has gained a bunch of weight and it is taking it's toll on her. I went over to check on her and her house is an awful wreck... and she had not showered in days. I had to tell her to get in the shower and wash her hair. she said "why, I don't want to go anywhere and I just don't care how I look." and I was like..."you stink. get in the shower or I will throw you in." and it took 2 days of cleaning for the kitchen alone to get clean. I have worked my ass off and did most of the work. BUT her kids and her husband are tired and they just flat out need a break from this crap. and they don't deserve to live like this. she has been seeing a new therapist and is getting on new meds and I am crossing my fingers everyday that the mania returns. she is usually very ocd about her house and her body and her stuff.

her husband is all threatening to divorce her over the depression, and at this point , all I can do is let her yak at me because he can't take it anymore, and help her clean up the house.

all the while I keep saying stuff like... this house didn't get this bad in one day and it is not gonna get clean in one day... let's get busy. and .... you will feel better once you help me clean this house.

oh Clorox.