"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Creative neg/dlv

MotownMack

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I know negs are nothing new, and are abused by countless DJ's in training. But I found this one particularly amusing and apart from the pack for a few reasons.

Simply stated, the neg is designed to take a HB down a peg, but not appear rude or insulting. It's power lies in it's subtlety.

The problem is that most of the ones I hear about are physical in nature, and as such, needed to be handled like dynamite, and should be used carefully on less attractive women. I think a lot of people are tired of talking about them, but there are still some very creative and effective ones out there that can be used to your advantage.

Here is one that I have tried, has worked wonderfully, and has of yet failed to get a laugh out of both the target and I.

Simply during the course of conversation (especially useful if she is talking about something you don't really want to hear or you need to shake up a boring conversation), while she is talking, interrupt the target and say:

You (in a very light hearted fashion): "Eww, did you just spit on me?!"
Her: (laughing and a little embarrassed/surprised): "Oh my god, I did not!"
You (still kidding around, appear to wipe something off your cheek): "Uhm, yeah you did! You totally spit on me. Gross!"
Her (wondering if she actually did spit on you while she was talking, usually laughing more now): "I so did not spit on you!!"
You (ad lib here, playfulness is the key): "Wow, I can't talk to you anymore..." or "Geesh, I think we just found out why you're still single."


I recently upped the ante and effectiveness of this neg by playfully pretending to wipe it off on her arm, also good to establish some initial contact/kino.

Remember, it doesn't matter if she actually spit on you. It also is a slight DLV for her, because now she is slightly thrown and embarrassed, and concerned about the impression she is making.. whether she cared a minute ago or not. She does now.

To top it all off, it doesn't run the risk of making you look like a jerk or actually offending your target, like some negs do.

I've used it like 5 or 6 times now, and the reaction is always resulted in a laugh and her now being a little less ****y and thrown off her game.



Anyone else got something like this that they use?
 
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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