crazy report, I'm a begginer needing advanced advice!

[darkerblue]

I'm a newby in pickup, that just got a lucky (maybe)one off, with a girl I think i could marry! I just moved to a new country for a new job a few months ago and realised nothing is working for me here...
3 days ago I decided to join some work colleges going out to a reggae gig in a club, when in the middle of the evening I saw for the first time in my life a real stunning 10(I've only been out with a 7 and an 8 until now)...10(perfect face, perfect body)...10!!! blond Rastagirl on the other side of the room, I could see guys coming on to her just to turn around in defeat, when she turned her head and we made eye contact, I went over straight away and asked her if she wasn't too young to be in a club like that(I admit not the best opener, but I recovered with some other random questions she and her friends found amusing) after about 3 minutes she said she needed a smoke and asked me if I would like to join her outside.
we sat and talked for about an hour in which I realised that we actually do share all of the same values, and she's also a PhD student...and we even have mutual friends, I managed to get her hand steadily in mine...
we went dancing (which is my strong point) and we started making out heavily in the middle of the club, since we realised we only lived a block away from each other I walked her home...offered her tea in my flat where she came up, we had our tea (at 6 am)...and continued where we stopped on the dance floor... she told me she really likes me and hence would rather take it slow on the first night, hence not letting me take her pants off...
I could have put some tricks into action, but decided that maybe I should give her that space and make the first time more special if we were to become serious(is that a mistake), so I told her it was ok, and we went to sleep...
she had to leave early 2 hours later as she was going home for the weekend and had a ride with one of her friends, so I made her breakfast and was super sweet...she said i was crazy and said she liked me.
when she wanted to give me her number her phone was out of battery and she didn't remember it so she asked for mine...she said she'll be back by Tuesday the latest... and she'll give me a ring or message then. we kissed and she ran off.
She was very confident throughout the whole happening. and gave me a feeling that we might not meet again towards the time she left.

the thing is...I can't get her out of my head, and have located her on facebook via our mutual friends(not adding her yet), should I wait it out for when she might or might not call back? or should I add her and let her know that she has hijacked my mind? am I just being paranoid?
any tips on how to play it from here?

 

[falcon814]

She didn't remember her phone number?

Sounds fishy.

I'd wait it out since there is nothing else you can do now. Dont add her on facebook.
Wait until she contacts you.

 

[kingsam]

just because you pull a girl or even bang her, she dont necessarily like you much !
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I could have put some tricks into action, but decided that maybe I should give her that space and make the first time more special if we were to become serious(is that a mistake),

FU CK YEH thats a big mistake you he hell are you thinking about the future after not even 1 night??!! what the hell!

and gave me a feeling that we might not meet again towards the time she left.

ALWAYS trust your gut-feeling it never lies to you (like your ego does)
And a PHD student who dont know their phone number...BULL SH.IT!

the thing is...I can't get her out of my head, and have located her on facebook via our mutual friends(not adding her yet),

dont add, even if u were dating her , you should hold off adding her on FB

or should I add her and let her know that she has hijacked my mind?

that would be truely pathetic
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I'd wait it out since there is nothing else you can do now. Dont add her on facebook.
Wait until she contacts you.

do THIS, doubt she would add you....

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RE your thread title... you dont need advanced help, your just out your depth!

 

[Black suit]

I went and resalvaged my account 'cuz I had to post to this, but Kingsam already has posted the good stuff.

Girl was bull****ting you at least three times there. Anyways, it's over with her.

WTF were you doing making her breakfast and ****? Did she, at any point in the couple of hours you were together, earn that kind of behavior?

Next time, never give a girl your phone number. If she asks for yours, even very nicely, ask her to give you hers. You'll call back. If she doesn't give you hers, she doesn't get yours. PERIOD.

Dammit man... Do no contact now. Do NOT add her to your facebook.

One thing I learned here is that there is no question of a future, unless she meets your high standards AND earns it over a period of time.

 

[kingsam]

I went and resalvaged my account 'cuz I had to post to this, but Kingsam already has posted the good stuff.

sorry i got there first! haha

Next time, never give a girl your phone number. If she asks for yours, even very nicely, ask her to give you hers. You'll call back. If she doesn't give you hers, she doesn't get yours. PERIOD.

yeh i was thinking about this, he could have gone in a facetious way ... "oh i cant remember my phone number either! what a coincidence!" so not give it..

 

[Kailex]

Kailex reporting live for Reality Check News!

I'm a newby in pickup, that just got a lucky (maybe)one off, with a girl I think i could marry!

Fail #1

she told me she really likes me and hence would rather take it slow on the first night, hence not letting me take her pants off...
I could have put some tricks into action, but decided that maybe I should give her that space and make the first time more special if we were to become serious(is that a mistake), so I told her it was ok, and we went to sleep...

Fail #2

she had to leave early 2 hours later as she was going home for the weekend and had a ride with one of her friends, so I made her breakfast and was super sweet...she said i was crazy and said she liked me.

Fail #3

when she wanted to give me her number her phone was out of battery and she didn't remember it so she asked for mine...she said she'll be back by Tuesday the latest... and she'll give me a ring or message then. we kissed and she ran off.

Fail #4

She was very confident throughout the whole happening. and gave me a feeling that we might not meet again towards the time she left.

You're not meeting again. Fail #5.

the thing is...I can't get her out of my head, and have located her on facebook via our mutual friends(not adding her yet), should I wait it out for when she might or might not call back? or should I add her and let her know that she has hijacked my mind? am I just being paranoid?
any tips on how to play it from here?

Fail #6

I wonder if this girl is homeless and just used you to have a place to stay, and then got breakfast out of it too.
The biggest red flag out of all of this was her not remembering her phone... if she really liked you that much, she would know that number by heart and you would have had it.

The worst part out of all of this was reading that you'd like to marry this girl and then proceed to tell a story that took all of ONE NIGHT.

Just ONE NIGHT.

I expected something that would take a process of maybe a year or two... but you want to marry her after one night in which she basically used you as a bed and breakfast?

Forget this girl because she probably forgot about you already.

 

[darkerblue]

Wow I'm really surprised by all of the advice/criticism and the very through replies, I will just wait it out.
so...I decided that I should be able to replicate my success and what better than to hit on the hottest girl in my language course(8.5-9) so I asked the guy next to her to switch places and got a conversation going, got her laughing, and time bridged to try a new place in town on Thursday. she initiated giving me her number and email(for location instructions) this time I think I will wait until Thursday and meet her where we arranged, no calling in between. is that the right attitude?

Thanks again

 

[darkerblue]

Another update to all you non believers: The 10 added me on facebook, sent me a message and called! she said that she just got a new phone as hers has died, and she contacted our mutual friends for my full name and number! and wants to meet up when I have free time Maybe it was mutual?

 

[Kailex]

Another update to all you non believers: The 10 added me on facebook, sent me a message and called! she said that she just got a new phone as hers has died, and she contacted our mutual friends for my full name and number! and wants to meet up when I have free time Maybe it was mutual?

How convenient.
Congratulations on the wedding.

 

[Aznkid1030]

:crackup:

 

[AFCToDJSlowButSurely]

dont catch feelings bro. make sure you have other women on backup on the side. having options is great, i have several in various stages myself atm.

 

[darkerblue]

We had a beautiful passionate night yesterday, and there are more to come
Thanks for the advice to play it cool!

 

[Jay Dee]

Next time (if there is one) escalate!
Kino, talk sexual, and aim for the bedroom - get her to make YOU breakfast

 

[darkerblue]

Hey, Jay Dee... I don't think there is anywhere I could escalate to from here, the evening went Dinner-> Couch->Bed->Bath-> Bed...we made love until we were both exhausted, and stayed in bed when we got up so there was no time for breakfast this time