"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Crazy One Night Drunken Party hookup - Next Morning questions

omgwtfm8

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Me and this girl i just met were hitting things off all night long and we ended up crashing at my boys house one night, we ended up hooking up at like 3:00AM for about two hours. No sex, nothing too crazy, we passed out spooning, and when 10:00AM rolled around I got up to go to the bathroom and came back, and laid back down, then I said, "I need a little space" because i didn't have any headroom. A little scoot was all i needed. She got the complete wrong idea got up and moved to another couch, I was being sarcastic and said, "Oh well... wow that works i guess." And i passed out again. Then i woke up to nobody there, she told my friend that she hates me, and said stuff like i don't want to talk to him again.

She thought I meant "Get outta my site" when i asked for some room. I haven't talked to her since and I was wondering how i should contact her. I don't want her to get the wrong idea of me. She's a HB9.0, i'd like to be on friendly speaking terms at least. What should i say?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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omgwtfm8

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I need advice wording it.

I can't just be like, "Hey, you got the wrong idea. I meant a little scoot over not, get out of my face. WTF girl" heh
 

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yes you can - don't reherse - your not going for an oscar - just be honest
 

penkitten

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uhhh you just let her go to the couch and stew in it ?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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PRMoon

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I gotta go with pen on this one. Why didn't you speak up while she was walking to the sofa. That was an easy save and you blew it big time. You could get deep into what she was thinking at the time and all but that doesn't really matter anymore.

I say chalk this one up to learning exprience and move on. The memories will fade in a few days. If you see her again face to face maybe you can clear things up... or not it doesn't really matter.
 

omgwtfm8

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Yeah, I know usually hookups like this don't hold any kind of future. I just didn't want to be on good terms in case we did meet again randomly somewhere. Small town, I usually run into the same people every once in awhile. You know how that goes. Yeah, well i sent her a msg on myspace, that's the only form of contact i had with her. She read it no reply. No big deal. She was a virgin, very insecure and 18 yrs old. I usually next these girls from the get go.
 
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