"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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LukeLC23

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So before I start, can you guys finish reading before you give me an answer? Well like many people I've always had a nagging crush on this one girl since 8th grade. it was kind of obsessive at that time. I got her aim from friends and started talking to her. She was annoyed at me for a while but eventually she accepted me as a friend. We talked for at least hours every week. But the thing was, I was so shy at the time that I couldn't talk to her EVEN when she TRIED to talk to me.... Eventually after a year or two in high school we stopped instant messaging her. Now prom season is coming up and I have a crazy idea of asking her. WAIT, but not for her to say yes. Just to get out of my comfort zone and finally put this girl off of her pedestal. Keep in mind we haven't talked for a while but i'm leaving high school in about 3 months so it does not matter what I do. Plus I have a backup prom date who's pretty hot. If I ask her randomly, I'll finally grow some balls. Everytime I see her, I freeze. I need to get over this.

Example: The day I decided on this crazy plan I saw her for the first time in the halls. We were going to walk next to each other but I litterally froze and backpedaled.....

I know it seems like I'm obsessed with this girl but i'm really not. I just need to get over this tiny nagging crush. Please don't respond with "you're a *****" and stuff like that. Should I do it though?!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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One of my big regrets (I try not to regret anything I do) was not asking this one girl to prom junior year. I say go for it. So much more to gain than you have to lose. Just loosen up a bit. Freezing in your tracks isn't gonna get you what you want.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Well weird thing happened. I just randomly realized that this girl i've put up on a pedestal for 4 YEARS was nothing special. Idk how I came about this. I guess my image of her got shattered in someway and it woke me up. Now I know i've changed for the better and i actually don't need to prove it to anyone. The fact that i've got a hot date waiting makes it all the better. The need to ask her is gone. Now she's just another cute girl i've pursued, failed, and grown immensely from!
 
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Well then, good for you dude. I just hope you're not using that as some excuse to wimp out.

It doesn't sound like it though. I know the feeling - I came upon this site towards the end of a weak one-itis. That feeling of being free from one-itis is incredible, and it hits you suddenly. You just wake up and boom, you're done and she can go **** herself sideways for all you care.

Even if I'm not terribly successful with chicks, this site has changed me for the better.
 
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Just imagine what will be the worst thing that can happen to you if she says no, and go ASK!

Once you imagined the worst case scenario, actually doing it isnt that scary.
 
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I'm sure just about everyone can admit to putting some girl on a pedestal and finding out she isn't all that..

Best of Luck to you
 
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