"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Lolito

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First time posting here, although read a lot. I ll sum up cause im lost (sorry for my english btw)

-met this chick 10 years younger than me at summer
- ****ed first night we met
-****ed second night we met
-arranged new meeting. ****ed her
-4th time- she postponed it but immediately suggested the day after. I agreed and again we did it.
-so i arranged a date for 2 days ago. Again at the last hour she postponed it to today. And now postponed it to tomorrow (always with friend excuses)

She always takes a lot of time to answer me, but i always **** her whe we meet.

After the second postponement today, i dont know if the right move would be to say yes. In one side she did suggest a new date, on the other its the second time she does it.

I m going to reply now. I like this girl and i don t want to mess up, but obviously im prepared to move forward. Any advice?

Edit: i m the one who always initiate
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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You probably shouldn't go through with that date.

Back off a bit for a while, not completely but stop being the initiator.. you don't want to be investing more in this than her. If she comes back strong give her one more chance. Either her excuses were legitimate and things will continue, or because of low interest she'll continue to flake out, in which case she should be NEXTed.
 
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Just curious, but how old are you two? I'm guessing around 30-20, something like that? Realize that despite what everyone will say about young women, they like to f*ck just like anyone else and they'd like to f*ck different guys whenever possible. So, with that said, it's possible she's nailing some other dude too based on what you've written.

It doesn't sound like this is any sort of actual relationship, just plate spinning, and it also sounds you are each other's plate. Do you want a relationship out of this or are you happy with how things are now?
 

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BetterCallSaul said:
Just curious, but how old are you two? I'm guessing around 30-20, something like that? Realize that despite what everyone will say about young women, they like to f*ck just like anyone else and they'd like to f*ck different guys whenever possible. So, with that said, it's possible she's nailing some other dude too based on what you've written.

It doesn't sound like this is any sort of actual relationship, just plate spinning, and it also sounds you are each other's plate. Do you want a relationship out of this or are you happy with how things are now?
29-19.

Yes im not looking for a ldr, but i admit i m getting some feelings on this girl (probably on the basis of the adventure premise)

But at the end of the day i just want to keep nailing her. I was thinking in answering something like "2nd time postponed, thats a novelty for me. No worries.". She ll understand that If she wants to then she has to text me 2morrow, im not going to initiate again.

Do you agree?
 

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Lolito said:
Yes im not looking for a ldr, but i admit i m getting some feelings on this girl
Classic. Yes, of course you are. And you're trying to turn a FB relationship into something more. Listen closely, NOT GOING TO HAPPEN. She probably senses your "feelings", that is why she is flaking on you. She inherently is trying to keep the boundaries where they are.


Lolito said:
But at the end of the day i just want to keep nailing her.
Then just do that. Don't do anything else. If you nail her at her place, leave very soon after. Do you want to have this chick to fvck on the reg? Then just fvck her and keep it at that. The FB relationship is a delicate one. Don't fvck with it.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Peaks&Valleys said:
Classic. Yes, of course you are. And you're trying to turn a FB relationship into something more. Listen closely, NOT GOING TO HAPPEN. She probably senses your "feelings", that is why she is flaking on you. She inherently is trying to keep the boundaries where they are.



Then just do that. Don't do anything else. If you nail her at her place, leave very soon after. Do you want to have this chick to fvck on the reg? Then just fvck her and keep it at that. The FB relationship is a delicate one. Don't fvck with it.
You re absolutely right my friend. Any advice in what to answer than? I have a feeling she s being honest about tomorrow. Should i just say no worries and then wait for her text tomorrow? Or should i say i dont know if i can...

At the end i just want to nail her hehe
 

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Just don't be needy or dependent on her. You should only be banging her once or, at the most, twice a week. Don't text fufu nonsense. Don't wish her a happy birthday or expect to hang out with her on any special occasions. To you she is basically a cvm dumpster, to her, you are a glorified dildo.

Should i just say no worries and then wait for her text tomorrow?
I would say no worries, then don't wait on $hit. Wipe her out of your mind for the time being. Go find some new poon. But, be confident in yourself to know that you will hit it again sometime at a later date. Don't kill the golden goose. With a FB, be patient.

I have an FB plate, that I was seeing once a week. She was an FB+, as in, I'd usually stay over, and/or we'd watch movies and $hit, and we'd usually have dinner at her place or walk down the street to get drinks and/or food. However, the relationship was built around sex, but, because of me staying over, and all that went with it, SHE started getting attached. BUT (again) this attachment wasn't real, it was just because I was the only one in her life at the moment that she was banging and/or going out with. Well, I take off for two weeks, when I come back she tells me: "I met someone, and we have this great connection, blah blah, I want to see where it goes." Me: "that's great, have a good one, blah, blah, it's been fun, we'll probably talk some other time, blah."

*2 months later*

Her: Hey you, you still around?

FB's are FB's. If they meet someone and they want to drop you for the time being, cool. Don't take it personal, it is what it is. If you meet someone and you want to drop her, Cool. However, the two of you are "available" again, Cool. Back to bangin.

That's my take on it anyways.
 

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If she is crazy, drop her find another chick who is not as nutty.
 

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So basically I went out with her Thursday after she sent me a message saying "Oh im feeling terrible, let s go out then".

From the beginning she was saying that she was very tired and would be so nice to sleep in HER BED after going home - suggesting no sex with me for the first time.

So basically I just left her home, and went away, never telling her anything else since.

She didn't say nothing either, but Monday PMd me on FB saying (Hi, I lost my phone, please give me back your number again :)) which puzzled me.

Either the NC affected her, or she still has some kind of IL, as otherwise she wouldn't say anything....

I just gave her my number and still haven't said anything else. 6 days have passed, so I'm wondering - should I arrange a new date (if she postpones/bs/etc I'll just next her) or wait for her to say something?

She has all the red flags but except for the last time I always banged her.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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