"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Crash and Burn - should have known better!!

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Damn, Slickster your going to really appreciate this story, I should have known better from your posting!!

There's a woman that I've known for a while now that I've always been really attracted to but one of us has always been dating someone since we've known eachother. There's always been a big time mutual attraction, flirting, etc.

Anyway, for the first time we're both single now so I asked her out last week. We went for dinner, drinks, blah blah. Anyway, I thought to myself that I know her fairly well, the attraction has always been there and I really like her so I decided I didn't need to DJ her, I did the "just be yourself" thing. Way too much afcness going on, didn't work out too well. After a goodnight kiss I waited a day to call, got the voicemail. Called today, the "I'm busy I'll call you back". Crap, I should have learned from my own past experiences!!

It seems I do so much better when I don't give a $hit, dammit, I had three different women call me during the weekend that I have been seeing off and on, they chase and chase since I really don't care one way or another. Sometimes I really get tired of these games but the more I experience, the more I learn that there is no other way with women. My hearts not broken or anything, I'm just a little disappointed with the outcome, I thought there was some real potential. Just goes to show, you always have to be on top of your game.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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either on top of your game, or as you said, the "don't give a sh!t" attitude.

work on the other three you have and your boof will fade pretty quickly. if you want to "recover" from this one, just make yourself scarce.
 
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i'm kinda in a similar situation (my post is "what the heck should i do".....

just out of curiousity, has she contacted you? anything i should be optimistic about?
 
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i just want to know if there's ANYTHING you can really do to recover from this situation or is it just a temporary recovery?
Will her interest level ever really rise again?
 
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The only way to raise her interest level is to make yourself
scarce, as someone else mentioned.

DO NOT CALL OR EMAIL HER.

Go out with other women, it will boost you subconciously.

Then and only then, you may want to 'bump' into her
somewhere by accident and let her know just how
great everything is (and all the chicks you have
going on.)

Keep a 'gotta go - bye' slick attitude on, and don't
fall into the trap of being AFC.

Been there done it.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Hey Squid

I must admit I was smiling as I read your post. Not laughing at you. Just the silliness of this game we all seem forced play.

I have a date coming up with a real "nice" girl. Even after my last episode "trying to be myself" I was wondering if I should skip the games and try it again.

After reading this I think I'll stick to the game plan. :rolleyes:

Thanks. :)
 
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Originally posted by torontoguy72
The only way to raise her interest level is to make yourself
scarce, as someone else mentioned.

DO NOT CALL OR EMAIL HER.

Go out with other women, it will boost you subconciously.

Then and only then, you may want to 'bump' into her
somewhere by accident and let her know just how
great everything is (and all the chicks you have
going on.)

Keep a 'gotta go - bye' slick attitude on, and don't
fall into the trap of being AFC.

Been there done it.
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It is even better if you are with another woman when you bump into her.
 
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Originally posted by Slickster
Hey Squid

I must admit I was smiling as I read your post. Not laughing at you. Just the silliness of this game we all seem forced play.

I have a date coming up with a real "nice" girl. Even after my last episode "trying to be myself" I was wondering if I should skip the games and try it again.

After reading this I think I'll stick to the game plan. :rolleyes:

Thanks. :)
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lol, I thought you'd like that one! Seriously dude, stick to the game plan at ALL times, I've done this more than once, it never works.

If I wouldn't have cared so much I would have been in top form, that's what's so damn annoying.
 
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Live and learn

Yep those who care the least hurt the less.

Sayno' to girly emotions.
 
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By the way even after marriage you have to apply these rules or else it'll all turn sour then too. You must continualy develope your game. Otherwise these hoes will lose all respect for you.


Sayno'
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Thanks for the support guys, hopefully next time I keep my head!!
 
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squid,

had any positive feedback at all from this chick? or it is a dead issue?
 
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I haven't tried calling since Monday, she emailed me today saying that she's been too busy to call, blah blah, I didn't respond, I don't buy the too busy crap and I'm too old to jump through anyones hoops anymore, if she was interested she would have made some effort. I'm still kind of disappointed, but I'm not going to get oneitis either, time to move on.
 
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