"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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crap ,new girl at my job

cablecow15

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the other day i made a post asking about the procedure for hitting on customers at my job , now there is a new girl working at my workplace and shes pretty cute , when i got hired i told myself i wouldn't get involved with girls i work with . now that im faced with it , its very tempting.

also i was wondering , even if i decide against perusing her , I could probably become friends with her and gain a few now outlets for meeting other girls .
I haven't lived in this area long , so any acquaintances would be a step in the right direction

Any thoughts ?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I think that there are way too many girls outside of work for you to even be putting in the time to write this thread. Bars, clubs, the mall, volunteering, THAT'S where you should be focusing on meeting girls, not the one at work.

Don't pursue her. Since she works with you, all she is good for is inviting her to hang out with you and one of your girlfriends, or as a wing girl.
 

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Ya have done the girl at work thing and it is in no way worth it whatsoever. If you can't control yourself w/ her as a friend don't go that route either. If you can then make friends but that is IT.
 

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I have gone out with a couple girls at work. Most of them they gave me the signals I just reacted.

If you are going to pursue this then that's what I would recommend. If she gives you buying signals then go for it IF she doesn't work in the same department as you. If she does work in the same department it could be hell for you.

just remember the following

if your approach fails: it will make work very uncomfortable, could lead to embarrassment or even trouble (she could report you or whatever). That's why I recommend making sure she is giving you buying signals. You gotta be sure she wants it to avoid too much risk.

if your get into a relationship and it ends: It will make your life a living hell having to see her everyday at work specially if you're not completely over her and she works in the same department. This happened to me.

This is not to excuse the real cause of this whole thing which is you not doing enough going out into the world and meeting women. I got caught up with women at work because I wasn't doing any hunting at the time outside of work. I am pretty sure 99% that's your case.

When you got a lot of options you don't obsesses with women that could risk your weekly paycheck just to try and get some pu$$y. This is the real issue you should address which is you probably not doing enough going out and meeting women.
 

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These threads always come up.

If you are comfortably with:

- Potentially losing your job.
- Dealing with the everyday drama of being with her in a work environment.
- The heart ache of seeing her when it doesn't work out.

Go for it.

You only live once, pu$$y is pu$$y.

If it's not a serious job, go for it.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Believe me I would much rather be out there meeting people every chance i have , but im not driving just yet , its complicated , I will be driving soon tho so if anything im just looking for things to do until then , no pun intended.

Its a seasonal job , I think this girl is seasonal too , im in hardware , and she is a cashier. Id like them to keep me on after the season is over , so i think ill just be friendly , the only reason i even mentioned it on here is because every time I walked by her register I could see her looking at me a few times from my peripheral vision , then after that i made eye contact every time and smiled , n she smiled back , we also had a small talk in the break room , and she seemed very friendly and made it very easy to make her laugh.

or maybe its just me grabbing at straws because I am still unable to roam around in a car as I please.

I should know better , just needed some reassuring. =] thanks guys
 

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also , if i get any signals , i wont react automatically ill bring it here first n see what you guys think
 
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