"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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crap ,new girl at my job

cablecow15

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the other day i made a post asking about the procedure for hitting on customers at my job , now there is a new girl working at my workplace and shes pretty cute , when i got hired i told myself i wouldn't get involved with girls i work with . now that im faced with it , its very tempting.

also i was wondering , even if i decide against perusing her , I could probably become friends with her and gain a few now outlets for meeting other girls .
I haven't lived in this area long , so any acquaintances would be a step in the right direction

Any thoughts ?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I think that there are way too many girls outside of work for you to even be putting in the time to write this thread. Bars, clubs, the mall, volunteering, THAT'S where you should be focusing on meeting girls, not the one at work.

Don't pursue her. Since she works with you, all she is good for is inviting her to hang out with you and one of your girlfriends, or as a wing girl.
 

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Ya have done the girl at work thing and it is in no way worth it whatsoever. If you can't control yourself w/ her as a friend don't go that route either. If you can then make friends but that is IT.
 

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I have gone out with a couple girls at work. Most of them they gave me the signals I just reacted.

If you are going to pursue this then that's what I would recommend. If she gives you buying signals then go for it IF she doesn't work in the same department as you. If she does work in the same department it could be hell for you.

just remember the following

if your approach fails: it will make work very uncomfortable, could lead to embarrassment or even trouble (she could report you or whatever). That's why I recommend making sure she is giving you buying signals. You gotta be sure she wants it to avoid too much risk.

if your get into a relationship and it ends: It will make your life a living hell having to see her everyday at work specially if you're not completely over her and she works in the same department. This happened to me.

This is not to excuse the real cause of this whole thing which is you not doing enough going out into the world and meeting women. I got caught up with women at work because I wasn't doing any hunting at the time outside of work. I am pretty sure 99% that's your case.

When you got a lot of options you don't obsesses with women that could risk your weekly paycheck just to try and get some pu$$y. This is the real issue you should address which is you probably not doing enough going out and meeting women.
 

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These threads always come up.

If you are comfortably with:

- Potentially losing your job.
- Dealing with the everyday drama of being with her in a work environment.
- The heart ache of seeing her when it doesn't work out.

Go for it.

You only live once, pu$$y is pu$$y.

If it's not a serious job, go for it.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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cablecow15

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Believe me I would much rather be out there meeting people every chance i have , but im not driving just yet , its complicated , I will be driving soon tho so if anything im just looking for things to do until then , no pun intended.

Its a seasonal job , I think this girl is seasonal too , im in hardware , and she is a cashier. Id like them to keep me on after the season is over , so i think ill just be friendly , the only reason i even mentioned it on here is because every time I walked by her register I could see her looking at me a few times from my peripheral vision , then after that i made eye contact every time and smiled , n she smiled back , we also had a small talk in the break room , and she seemed very friendly and made it very easy to make her laugh.

or maybe its just me grabbing at straws because I am still unable to roam around in a car as I please.

I should know better , just needed some reassuring. =] thanks guys
 

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also , if i get any signals , i wont react automatically ill bring it here first n see what you guys think
 
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