"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Cowardly friends?

ElStud

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Cortex said:
ElStud is describing himself. Read his other topics and you'll understand.
Yeah. They'll understand you're a moron when they see that my last five threads have something to do with approaching women, infact most of my threads are actually FRs. While you, the 8 posts you have are really nothing but either trolling post or one line sentences.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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ElStud

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superchill89 said:
i'm gonna have to agree with potbelly here. you are being a pr1ck for trying to pressure him into approaching. if he doesn't feel like approaching then don't make him, you're just making him uncomfortable and pissed off. let him decide what he wants to do. more important than just being a PUA is being a decent person too, and it's pretty obvious that you are letting whatever small steps you have taken towards becoming social get to your head. it's pretty clear in your initial post that you must have had a couple good interactions recently and this is your way of inflating your ego by showing off your slightly improved approach skills. keep up the good work but don't let it get to your head.
Will you listen? The guy wanted to approach. And I'm not letting crap get to my head, I'm trying to help a friend get over his approach anxiety. He even told us he could approach at least ONE girl and he didn't. Do you think I would honestly go up to a girl and say "Hey, my friend Ike wants to talk to you" to mess with him? No, me and my other friend did that to try and help him, since he didn't want to help himself and even then he STILL cowarded out. If he wanted to help himself he would've just approached and stop cowarding out.
 

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Not all people like to approach people on the spot. "Hey, look at that chick, go get it!!"....Like me, I do not approach when put on the spot. I approach when it is right for me.
 

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Regardless of what you think, pressuring somebody who has anxiety approaching strangers into approaching some random girl on the spot is not helping him. He wants to be able to approach girls? Of course he does. Who doesn't. Approaching girls means getting girls. But that doesn't mean pressuring him to do it on the spot and inevitabely making him feel worse every time he doesn't do it is going to help him in any way.
 

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J. J. Flash said:
ElStud, your friend might have something called Social Anxiety Disorder, also known as Social Phobia. This disorder causes the person to experience anxiety or even panic attacks when put in certain social situations. Take a look at those links:

http://www.socialanxietyinstitute.org/define.html
http://www.socialphobia.org/whatis.html#whatis1

If you decide to show your friend those links, take care on not hurting his feelings - if he has social phobia, he will probably be VERY embarrassed to admit it.
+1 on that even if it's not it. don't be ignorant.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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