"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Cowardice - That's your only excuse

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  • I have no place of my own, so I can't bring the hoe home.
  • I have no car, so I can't pick her up and arriving at a date with a taxi or public bus is AFC AF.
  • I got some acnes on my face, that makes me unattractive and scary
  • etc

I tried to get rid of those common excuses, I got my own place for the first time, a decent car and looked my best. Yet, I just kept wanking in that isolated apartment for a whole year. Why? Because laziness(which is a common illness) and cowardice(Lack of male characteristics) are the real excuses for dry spells and loneliness.

I recommend everyone to read this book by an unknown japanese samurai, it's free and can be downloaded from the internetz.

Timidity - How To Overcome It (1916)

By Yoritomo-Tashi
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Did it help you overcome it? What else helped you?

I'm in a very similar situation - improved my place, my financial situation with a better job, am back in the gym, and currently saving up for a better car. But still not getting out there and being an anti-social SOB. Been this way well over a year now...
 

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Did it help you overcome it? What else helped you?
It gave me a crystal clear description of my problems, and the final pages provide you with the mental tools you need to overcome the issue.

Generally desensitization exercises help a lot. Also taking the hot hoes off the pedastals mentally is the first step. Avoiding p0rn or any kind of media which portrays HB10s can help lowering your standards to more realistic levels, because "she is not hot enough, or not my kind of ho" is a form of excuse itself. I am just starting (again) thoguh.

And I listen to this before going out ->


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