"Blank Mind on Dates? She's Dropping Hints You Keep Missing"

The plates get cleared and the silence lands like a brick. You can feel her waiting. Your brain offers up your commute, your job, the weather — topics that have ended more second dates than bad breath.

Here's what most guys never learn: women hand out free conversational material all night long. Tiny clues about what they actually want to discuss. Catch them and you never run out of things to say — because she's telling you what to say next.

Rule 4 of the "22 Rules" trains your ear to catch every single one.

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Covid 19 and GF Wanting to Quarantine Together Every Day

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I now work from home and I have unsuccessfully asked my GF to go back to her place during this quarantine. I've tried on 3 occasions explaining to her that just because this pandemic is going around, she doesn't need to stay over every single day. It always results in an argument and I can't come up with another way of getting her to leave peacefully. I've already explained that seeing each other 24/7 is not healthy and also (since we're not at the point of discussing living together) that I need my personal space. I have a 2 story townhome and my office is upstairs so she believes by just staying downstairs it shouldn't be an issue for me. However you guys can understand that's not the point. She has her own place which is nice but she does not want to be there alone.

Any ideas?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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If she's staying downstairs and not bothering you then I wouldn't care. I don't have a girlfriend, but if I did, I'd want her on a leash right now during this quarantine
 

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I had a plate about 5 yrs ago start crying after banging because i was just fcking her after SHE KNEW we were no strings so i thought.
Pulled the old your treating me like shyt etc etc. (She wanted exclusive) i told her to leave now and im tolerating the tears. Go cry to someone else.
Haven't spoke since and my next step would have been to have her removed.
wow you so alpha pls teach us how to be this cool and amazing and alpha

that line specifically was so cool and alpha "I AM NOT TOLERATING THE TEARS! BEGONE THOT"
 

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Its a true story dude. Don't be jealous. I dont need to make up stories or to give daily updates of what i eat for breakfast.
Its about what guys are lacking these days.
Boundries.
The discussion of simps is rampant on social media my friend.
What do you think will happen if your at your girlfriends house and she asks you to leave during a argument and you refuse to?

Having you removed is an option for her and it often happens.
Treat her how she would treat you.

Thanks for the compliments though.
you should go with something "ill let you stay a while more if you let me stick a kitchen broom in your butt"
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Why? OP said he wanted her to go home. So much so he is posting on a forum. Its that simple. Now he's become wishy washy. But hey its his frame.
Who said I'm being wishy washy? And I actually did try your previous post of just asking her to leave, but all it did was cause her to cry and get mad. I'm trying to avoid that. I was asking for advice on how to get her to leave without an argument and I'm still trying to come up with ways.

Does she cook, clean and give up the box whenever you want? than let her stay

At the beginning o Quarantine i was seeing a 23 year old who did not cook or clean, she had great box but it wasn't enough
She does cook but she doesn't really clean. It's like having a roommate and I live alone intentionally because I don't like having one. My place is also 1 bedroom and alot of open space so it's not really convenient to have someone here 24/7. She does give up the box all the time but we've been together over a year and I don't really want to bang her every single day.
 

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You're allowing her to walk on you with this schtick she's pulling? Does she live alone as well?

Don't take the crap, make her go home with dread game.
 

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Who said I'm being wishy washy? And I actually did try your previous post of just asking her to leave, but all it did was cause her to cry and get mad. I'm trying to avoid that. I was asking for advice on how to get her to leave without an argument and I'm still trying to come up with ways.



She does cook but she doesn't really clean. It's like having a roommate and I live alone intentionally because I don't like having one. My place is also 1 bedroom and alot of open space so it's not really convenient to have someone here 24/7. She does give up the box all the time but we've been together over a year and I don't really want to bang her every single day.
Hey man

Same gf as before?
This is how women gets you they have a much greater tolerance to conflict therefore they slowly drain you down until they get wht they want.

Its also why imo that most will tolerate more crap from men.

If she cries for stupid stuff like they always do dont soften you tone or your demands.

Imo best thing to do is to tell her directly dont negociate or argue, tell her that she is not respecting your wishes therfore lacking respect towards you.
Also dont listen to counterargument tell her you dont care and that you wont change your mind.

You should.have the mindset that a women doing things like this is killing your attraction, and is clearly lacking respect for you. Why should you give her respect if she does not give it to you.

This is ground for dumping her.
She is draining you of your time, money and attention. This is not gonna get better with time man
 

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Who said I'm being wishy washy? And I actually did try your previous post of just asking her to leave, but all it did was cause her to cry and get mad. I'm trying to avoid that. I was asking for advice on how to get her to leave without an argument and I'm still trying to come up with ways.

She does cook but she doesn't really clean. It's like having a roommate and I live alone intentionally because I don't like having one. My place is also 1 bedroom and alot of open space so it's not really convenient to have someone here 24/7. She does give up the box all the time but we've been together over a year and I don't really want to bang her every single day.
In your mind, it's a bit of a catch-22.

If you quit her before she quits you (as in your case), she clings.
If you have her quit you before you quit her, (so she thinks leaving is her idea), then attraction diminishes.


You could give her empathy a la Christopher Voss and get to "That's right."

He's an FBI negotiator and is quite excellent, some of his stuff is on youtube. If he can get an armed guerilla to give up 10 million and spare a life through a phone chat, you can get your gf to give you some space.
 

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In your mind, it's a bit of a catch-22.

If you quit her before she quits you (as in your case), she clings.
If you have her quit you before you quit her, (so she thinks leaving is her idea), then attraction diminishes.


You could give her empathy a la Christopher Voss and get to "That's right."

He's an FBI negotiator and is quite excellent, some of his stuff is on youtube. If he can get an armed guerilla to give up 10 million and spare a life through a phone chat, you can get your gf to give you some space.
Interesting view, i will have a look at his video.

However it feel weak to me, manipulating things to get a women to quit you. That usually what women do to us.

I think it can still be useful in some situation, like with an ex you have kids with.
Most of the time i think it will show a women true nature and how cold they can be.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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OP, you're the one with the penis. Tell her it's time for her to go. It is not necessary to explain why. Make her leave.
Bro, like I said it's a pain in the ass when I tell her directly. She gets all defensive. I guess it's just one of those things I'm going to need to just deal with from time to time. Idk.
 

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Bro, like I said it's a pain in the ass when I tell her directly. She gets all defensive. I guess it's just one of those things I'm going to need to just deal with from time to time. Idk.
"hey, there's something I want to talk to you about. You might get upset, defensive or angry, it's not a big deal but it's something that's really important to me and something that you can help support me with ..."
 

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Bro, like I said it's a pain in the ass when I tell her directly. She gets all defensive. I guess it's just one of those things I'm going to need to just deal with from time to time. Idk.
So what if she gets defensive? This isn’t hard my man. If you can’t stand up to her that pvssy will dry up and when she eventually does leave she won’t come back.
 
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