Cousin issue

[Drdeee]

Daughter is my moms cousin, 15 years old. I'm staying at their place now, big house, and mom is working, making minimum wage. No father. Grand ma and pa. Cousin goes to college, starting 2nd year this September. This girl is growing up on a hoe path. Lies to mom, grandparents, uncle and other relatives. Wakes up past midday comes home past midnight. Smokes. Does everything that qualifies her as a fak buddy in DJ terms. Today she yelled in her grandmother, done hair, put on her best clothes and said she's going to her girlfriend. A lie. I saw her girlfriend and she wasn't with her. All my DJ training and Pimpology tells me she's on a date. Guess what, I saw her in a car with an older dude. They bought beer and drove towards beach.

Should I tell it to her mom, that she lies, and that i saw her with a guy in his mid 20s?

It ain't my business, but then again I do care that she grows up ok.

 

[PokerStar]

talk to her like an adult. and let her know of all the tricks that PUA use to get the p*ssy and how that a BF is a reflection of who they are.

nobody wants to see their sisters, cousins or daughters grow up being a wh*re, pregnant at a young age or even an contracting an std.

Just treat her like an adult, not like a kid. they would respect you more.

 

[Jaylan]

Or just kick the mid 20s dudes ass :kick:

Only a loser is that old and trying to date 15 year olds. Obviously is only using her to get his rocks off.

But like the previous poster said, try and talk to her like an adult. She prolly wont listen, but you gota try. Ten bucks says she rationalizes the drugs and stuff as "just having fun" and then says the bf actually cares about her

This is why I always lol when super older dudes go after young broads and try to tell us how the girls mature and crap. Oh please, we know girls a lot younger than us lack the maturity and life experience we have, thus easy to manipulate, and easier to get poon from than women in the same age group.

Who these cats trying to fool? let kids grow up.

 

[sexysuave]

Or just kick the mid 20s dudes ass

That wouldn't do much good, as he's only putting a temporary patch on the issue. She will just run off to another 25 year old. He can’t go around beating up the whole city.

And you’re right; she will rationalize it all, and probably even get resentful, especially if you talk down on her while doing this. So talking to her and treating her as an adult would be much better, but I still doubt it goes over well. But you gotta try.

The thing with the age is, if I’m not mistaken, you live in Russia? And I’ve been to Eastern Europe before, and if I recall right there is no laws that tell you at what age women are allowed to have sex with adults. It is not uncommon for teenage girls to be hanging out with guys in their 20s. Please correct me if I’m wrong, Drdee.

Now lets say, just as an example, they are both 3 years older, so it’s 18 and 28.. just a few months ago we had a thread where a 31 year old guy was asking about an 18 year old girl, she was trying to seduce him, and we all agreed that he should go for it. Do you also agree that there is nothing wrong with a 31 year old banging a 18 year old chick that wants him?

I understand 15 is obviously quite a bit younger, but don’t put all the blame on the guy here. Don't act like the girl is not willingly going along with this and maybe even pursued him. (I'm not arguing for the guy, once again, but you can't put ALL the blame on him). I think 15 is too young for a 25 year old, but the culture is different over there and I’m sure they see a lot more of it then we do in the US. Drdee, do confirm, as I could be wrong. Once again, not saying it’s OK, but you saying:

“we know girls a lot younger than us lack the maturity and life experience we have, thus easy to manipulate, and easier to get poon from than women in the same age group.”

Sounds like you telling that guys slightly older shouldnt’ go for younger chicks. Do you agree that the 31 year old should bang that 18 year old that’s been seducing him? Because that statement sort of says that you don’t.

Back to the subject though, all you can do is talk to her as an adult. She will likely be resentful either way, but you have to try. Kids at that age rebel against controlling parents and sibling and cousins. Do your best and we hope she learns and takes a more healthy path in life.

 

[Jaylan]

And yes I find a dude whos 31 going after under 21 yr olds a bit off. Girls that age are hardly mature and us older dudes could easily walk circles around them.

Myself being 24, I chose to date 20/21 and up. Though I prefer 22 and up a bit more. Maturity level tends to be greatly different. And we know an older guy only wants an 18/19 year old for one thing. If shes down for that, whatever shes an "adult". But at the same times people that age are still kids and usually get hurt when they date older folks. For myself, I would rather stay with girls in my age group, because I dont wanna be some novelty. I want to get the girl cause my game is tight and Im an awesome guy. Not because its "cool to date an older guy" or "hot getting with a younger man" from an older womens perspective. Meh

Think about how much less you knew about the world in your under 21 days. Personally I didnt feel like an adult until I was 23. And generally it seems, from various polls and such, that most folks didnt feel like a "real" adult until their mid 20s. I mean hell, our mature man forum is 25 and up. Some places dont let you rent a car until 25, and car insurance goes down at that age to.

Theres something to be said about those age groups. Not saying that outliers dont exist i.e. super mature folks despite their young age. But on average, kids are kids *shrug*

Think of it like this, Id like everyone to ask themselves what age range would not give them a second thought about the guy dating their 18 yr old daughter. For me its 16 to 22. Its not like none of us would get uneasy about some dude who prolly just wants to use our daughter for sex, right?