"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Courted

SgtSplacker

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What does it mean when a girl tells you she wants to be courted? When I meet someone the last thing I want to do is express my interest all early like that, i'm a very casual dude. I like to be able to get to know someone before I start courting them I think. But what the hell is courting really mean? Just taking her out and stuff?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Johnny Danger

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If she seems to be an otherwise normal girl, I wouldn't put too much stock in the line. Just keep doing your casual thing. If she says she "wants to be courted" it could be woman-speak for, "you're raising my interest level by not paying enough attention to me"
 

SgtSplacker

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If it's like that then i'm never going to "court" a girl I barely even know. I need to hang out a couple times as friends then maybe the "courtship" begins after I gain interest. I cant court a concept...
 
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