"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Over the noonhour, persusing some of the advice given on there.

""He's Hooked on Online Porn" was the article.

For a chick counsellor, some of the advice is suprisingly sound:

""That said, I also told Mia a blunt truth that many women don't want to hear: 'If you reject a man sexually, he's eventually going to go elsewhere.' I know this sounds like marital advice from the 1950s, but that makes it no less true. 'For a man,' I explained, 'sex is the greatest index of love. When Carson's physical needs are met and he feels desired, his confidence will skyrocket and his need for pornography will diminish.'"

And some of it not so much:

""'You have to stop denigrating her emotions,' I told Carson. 'Your actions deeply upset her, and for that reason alone, you have to stop.'"

Link: http://lifestyle.msn.com/relationships/couplesandmarriage/articlelhj.aspx?cp-documentid=5139133&page=1
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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mzilla2 said:
...And some of it not so much:

""'You have to stop denigrating her emotions,' I told Carson. 'Your actions deeply upset her, and for that reason alone, you have to stop.'"
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Why not? Women will withhold sex from guys who they don't feel an emotional connection to. A guy attacking a woman's emotions doesn't usually get very far sexually with her.
 

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Interesting, I just thought it counter intuitive to the "DJ" theory of not letting her emotions run or shake you...
 

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Interesting, I just thought it counter intuitive to the "DJ" theory of not letting her emotions run or shake you...
:confused:

A woman who is emotionally happy in a relationship is normally very receptive to her man's needs. How would upsetting her emotionally be beneficial?
 

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mzilla2 said:
Interesting, I just thought it counter intuitive to the "DJ" theory of not letting her emotions run or shake you...
It is his wife for Christ sake. If she is emotionally stable, so would be their sexual life and relationship in general.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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