"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Over the noonhour, persusing some of the advice given on there.

""He's Hooked on Online Porn" was the article.

For a chick counsellor, some of the advice is suprisingly sound:

""That said, I also told Mia a blunt truth that many women don't want to hear: 'If you reject a man sexually, he's eventually going to go elsewhere.' I know this sounds like marital advice from the 1950s, but that makes it no less true. 'For a man,' I explained, 'sex is the greatest index of love. When Carson's physical needs are met and he feels desired, his confidence will skyrocket and his need for pornography will diminish.'"

And some of it not so much:

""'You have to stop denigrating her emotions,' I told Carson. 'Your actions deeply upset her, and for that reason alone, you have to stop.'"

Link: http://lifestyle.msn.com/relationships/couplesandmarriage/articlelhj.aspx?cp-documentid=5139133&page=1
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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mzilla2 said:
...And some of it not so much:

""'You have to stop denigrating her emotions,' I told Carson. 'Your actions deeply upset her, and for that reason alone, you have to stop.'"
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Why not? Women will withhold sex from guys who they don't feel an emotional connection to. A guy attacking a woman's emotions doesn't usually get very far sexually with her.
 

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Interesting, I just thought it counter intuitive to the "DJ" theory of not letting her emotions run or shake you...
 

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Interesting, I just thought it counter intuitive to the "DJ" theory of not letting her emotions run or shake you...
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A woman who is emotionally happy in a relationship is normally very receptive to her man's needs. How would upsetting her emotionally be beneficial?
 

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mzilla2 said:
Interesting, I just thought it counter intuitive to the "DJ" theory of not letting her emotions run or shake you...
It is his wife for Christ sake. If she is emotionally stable, so would be their sexual life and relationship in general.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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