Ok guys going to make a long story kind of short, I met this chick around 8months ago through a friend. We hit it off instantly and spent alot of time together over the past few months everything seemed to good to be true. Well one sunday a few weeks ago I didnt hear from her that much wich was not normal, she sent me a text saying she was feeling really sick and she would call me later( we live about an hr apart) well around 11pm I get a text saying she is just going to go on to sleep and call me the next day I said cool talk to you tomorrow. I decided to drive up and make sure she didnt need anything just being a nice guy. When I get there a car is in the drive so I tried calling her phone and no anwser so I knocked no anwser so I knocked a little harder and no anwser again next thing you know the cops show up and say they got a call that someone was trying to break in and she never opened the door not even for them, so I leave, the next day late I finally talk to her and she said after she went to sleep one of her friends stopped by and he was having some problems blah blah, and that he was hanging out while she was asleep just watching the tv?? and when she woke up to me knocking on the door she was scared if she answered I would hurt the guy and he was scared to and that there was nothing to it at all. So I was pretty pissed and said some things I probably shouldnt have said but I did anyway so now she says that she cant talk anymore because of my actions. I know to move on and just forget about the chick and I always have a few lined up but I really care about her and I have tried to let her know how much I care about her. I sent her a text the last couple days and no reply. Before all this happened it was I love you this and that but now she is throwing the no contact up. Any ideas on how to get it going again? I thought about sending her some flowers to work and just saying hope everything is going good, just thinking about you and then no more contact at all? Advice needed never been in this situation before 35years old guess the prob is this is the first time I let myself give a ****.
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You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Couple Questions
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Have you ever had sex with this woman?
1. She called the cops on you.
2. She was probably screwing the guy. 'You watch some TV, I'm going to bed' Who does that?
3. Don't send any flowers.
4. Out of interest, what were the things you said to her you probably shouldn't have?
1. She called the cops on you.
2. She was probably screwing the guy. 'You watch some TV, I'm going to bed' Who does that?
3. Don't send any flowers.
4. Out of interest, what were the things you said to her you probably shouldn't have?
Sex yes almost daily for the past 8months.
she said her neighboor did but they all know me and wouldnt.
The things I said were the normal go **** yourself kind of things you might say in a situation like that
She says if she want to cheat she wouldnt have done it there seeing that I had a key to her place, I had just left it there the night before in my clothes.
We had a great time every time we were together which was almost everyday.
I guess the no contact at all would be the best since she has lost interest but I dont know...kind of lost on this one
she said her neighboor did but they all know me and wouldnt.
The things I said were the normal go **** yourself kind of things you might say in a situation like that
She says if she want to cheat she wouldnt have done it there seeing that I had a key to her place, I had just left it there the night before in my clothes.
We had a great time every time we were together which was almost everyday.
I guess the no contact at all would be the best since she has lost interest but I dont know...kind of lost on this one
and the funny thing is she kept some of my clothes...when I have her all her things back that was at my place and she returned mine I asked where they were and she said she was going to wash them and give them to me later, I need to pull myself out of this AFC zone that I have some how fallen into bad thing is I have never been an AFC so its going to take some work even if its just for payback
Maybe her guy "friend" mistakenly grabbed YOUR clothes before he making a quick getaway, while she was rushing to de-sexify the house. The neighbors then saw a strange man climbing out the back window, assumed he was a burglar and called the cops.
Case solved.
Case solved.
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Definately move on. Even if nothing was going on :crackup: , that is NOT OK. Totally suspicious, untrustworthy.
I hope for your sake, you aren't too attached, cuz that sucks.
BTW did she sound sick when you talked to her?
I hope for your sake, you aren't too attached, cuz that sucks.
BTW did she sound sick when you talked to her?
Yea I fell for the chick pretty hard but thats all good, I have no trouble picking up new ones, and you are correct its time to move on. I would like to regain the dominant status if at any way possible. I may have tried to contact to much to do that though.:cheer:
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