"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Couple of girls

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Ok it's great to see the forum back.

Now,I know two girls,one who added me in MSN (goes to another school and probably has a bf) and another who's phone number I got 3 days ago.The second girl has a guy chasing her and she's apparently allowing him to chase her,but not letting him be her guy.

Here's my question.For the first girl,she has some sort of tiny interest in me,since one of my good friends (a girl) introduced her to me and this girl asked my friend for my MSN.How am I to get her to go out with me?I have her phone number,and I asked her out 2 weeks ago but she couldnt make it.Now when and how should I ask her out?We talk occassionally on MSN.

For the second girl,who has a guy chasing her,I've talked to her on the phone just now for around 10 minutes.We see each other in school very often,but she's always with her friends whom I don't really know.And the problem is her friends are hard girls to get to know,they're not english speakers (the girl i talked to is japanese but she can speak english).

Thanks for the help guys!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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You could ask her. The problem is you do not know her well and going on a date now, will mean a real test of your skills, you will need in temrs of a social aspect, have your game real high, personaly i myself can not guarntee im always like this, with me it depends on the day and the girl.

You have already asked her, you are now in persuit of her, even thou she made the first step of getting your msn address, a fairly positive step. You should slow things down a bit and le ther chase you, all you need to do is still kepp it cool and all, but be a bit more selective with your attention. Make her fight for your attention, dont be afraid to take your time to reply on msn, tell her you will phone her in the evening because there is somthing important you want to tell her, this will make her wonder, and then dont call! Pretty soon she will be chasing you, she may even ask you out, but if not just wait for her to become very egar to talk to you, then ask her out.

Remember that even a genunie reason that a girl is busy, is negative because unless its like a funeral or somthing if she really liked you she would most probably make the time for you.
 

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Oh..The reason she didn't go out with me when I asked her out was that she didn't have the transport to get there and her dad doesn't allow her to ride on bikes (i have a bike).Transport is really a big problem here in Indonesia,really.

Well I plan to take my mom's car next time,its just that is it ok to ask her out 2 weeks after I did and she couldn't make it?Is two weeks too short a time and should I wait,or should I go for it this coming saturday?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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If she likes you then with in reason, there is no such thing as too short a time. Wait a few days before talking to her to keep her wondering and then you can ask her for this weekend. If she likes you she will say yes, if she does not then it would not have mattered how long you wait for.
 
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